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writes:hey,I really need help before I go insane.I’m 17 almost 18. I was in a 2 year relationship with the girl of my teen years dreams (corny I know). I had to brake up with her because she kept getting drunk at party and cheating on me with other guys. after the 5th time of her cheating on me (cheating being sexual intercourse with other men) and going through the same story of her crying into my arms, telling me how sorry she was and how much of a crap girlfriend she was to me. I finally decided to end our relationship. I never blamed here for what she did to me and I don’t now, its just I couldn’t take the pain anymore.Anyway a few weeks later I realized I made the biggest mistake of my life, no matter how many bad things happened in our relationship it wouldn’t change that fact I was in love with her and I wanted to be with her so badly. (by the way I made her sound like she is a horrible person, she’s not, only when she was drunk and are parties lol) anyway I asked her if she wanted to give our relationship another shot and she said no, which is fair enough if she doesn’t wont me back she doesn’t. Her reason was that we are too young to have such a serious relationship and she wanted to see new people. Which I also think is a good reason and I agree with we are to young. she is now my best friend and she is now in a relationship witch is going well for her, the only argument they’ve had was because her boyfriend found out that she still loved me (this was a while ago and I’m not sure if she still dose). Anyway this is the main part to my story, sorry for the long love life essay. It has been 7 months and I still love her as much as I did when we first went out, she is still the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last before I go to bed. I’m soooo broken hearted, I’ve tried seeing other women but it’s just not working out for me and I’ve tried getting her back before she had a boyfriend. I feel so lonely, I feel so unmanly and I just want to move on, I would have thought I would be over her by now but I’m not ?Can somebody tell me either how to get over her, still have her as my best friend (because I still feel like I have to look after her) without her knowing I still really like her or how to get her back.I really need help because I’m so bloody miserable so please, please, please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both for your advice
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 You can either get over her or still be as close with her as you are now, but not both.
You can't get her back.
She cheated because she was drunk, at parties and wanted to be with other people. That's the truth. And it is normal. When you are that young, it's healhty to "play the field" and not be in such a long relationship fo so long.
Let her new boyfriend take care of her and gain some space. It doesn't have to be a permanent end to your friendship, but you need the space or you won't move on.
It's a tough thing to do. You are almost eighteen now, though and if you want to feel manly again, well, men make difficult decisions because they are for the best.
Good luck. I hope this helps.
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