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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for some time now and we've been living together for about 2 months. It was nice in the beginning when i first moved in, but now i feel horrible. He is not the same person i fell in love with. He calls me name and flies off the handle over the smallest things. He yells at me and says i do things to provoke him when i just tell him how i feel. He flips out and leaves and ignores my calls while i'm left at home crying. I feel like i can't talk to him anymore and i feel like i'm starting to lose who i was before. I'm happy when i'm at work or school or just out by myself, and then when i get home i feel down. I used to cook and take care of the house since he works 2nd shift and i work 1st, but ever since all this has been happening i've lost interest. All i wanna do when i'm home is read and stay in bed. When i try to tell him how i feel he turns it around to something i did wrong and tries to make me feel bad and say i'm sorry. I suggested that i move back home (and added that i would save money, since i pay rent to live at my boyfriend's house) and he threatens to break up with me if i do. The only time we spend together is on the weekends and we fight for most of it. I'm so tired and i feel so bad about my life right now with him. But for some reason i still have hope and i want to work things out bc i know i do things wrong too. I don't know what to do.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Leave. Life is too short to be miserable.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Sweetheart why do you want to stay with this person???? When someone is making you feel that bad you need to get away as quickly as you can. Don't tell him you are moving out. Just move out when he's not there get your family to help you to make it quicker. As long as you are with this jerk you are missing out on the opportunity to meet your real soul mate.
Trust me he will NEVER go back to the way he was at the beginning and the trying to make you feel bad when you are upset caper is his plan to control you. I have been in your shoes and I waited around for 3 miserable years waiting for him to go back to the way he was in the beginning and of course it never happened. Believe me life is TOO short to spend it feeling miserable especially when the reason you are feeling miserable is all down to the actions of another person! Get out get out get out!
Good luck doll there is life after a jerk I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): I think he is emotionally abusive. I would dump him and move out. Get out of that relationship fast! Anyone who treats you the way he does doesn't deserve your time, respect, or love
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Sweetie, it sounds like you're depressed and with every good reason. This guy is not ready for a commitment or to support you in your needs. This is quite clearly emotional and psychological ABUSE - before it gets any worse, you need to end things. You should not need to stay in bed when you're upset - this is all about him, it's his inner turmoil. Please leave this unhealthy situation and relationship.
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