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writes: I'm 16 and I'm pregnet I know your going to say how stuped she is I know already I am any way my bf is with me all the way I just am soo scard to tell my dad I can't tell him I get scard and walk away I'm not aborshinig the baby it is wrong or neather am I giveing it away now I took one pregnacy test at home so I'm not 100% shure but I know I think I am becuse I missed my period and I tottaly don't know what to do. WHAT SHOULD I DO
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reader, cottonball  +, writes (15 October 2010):
i know how you feel i had to go throgh the same think but in my case my boy went to my parents and told them that i was movin out because he got me pregnet.I say that you get your boy to go with you and tell your parents. if he had the balls enough to go inside you than he should have the same to tell your parents cuz now its you n him forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): ecuse me i am not giving it away ok i have no mother and i know what it is like to not have a mother and not know then ok so i dont want that chold never knowing who i ma or onley seeing me once in a blue moon i want that child to see me evey day and i am very stabel
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (7 May 2010):
 You might want to think through how you want to talk to your Dad. You say that you won't have an abortion -- OK, that's perfectly fair, it's not for everyone. But you also say you won't put the baby up for adoption.
So what you father is going to hear is something like, "I'm pregnant so you have to raise another baby."
Hearing that from my 16 year-old daughter wouldn't exactly make my day, either.
My suggestion for these conversations is usually to get the parent thinking about the worst possible thing that could happen to their child. Death is number 1. Incurable illness, like AIDS, would be right up there. Pregnancy, on the other hand, is not the end of the world.
But for goodness sake be open to thinking through your alternatives. By telling him you're keeping the baby when you're 16, you're in effect telling him he has to raise another child. That's terribly unfair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): i think you should tell your dad too. but if your really sacred and think he's going to hit you or somethin you should wait to tell him when he's around ppls just not in the same room as them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): i think its best u just come clean with ur dad.... U must be scared as HELL!!! Its just one of things... U have a right mind not wanting to have an oborshin or give it!!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Get confirmations of your pregnancy first. If positive, tell your dad . It is better to tell him earlier than to tell him later . He will become better prepared for it.
Do not be scared, he will only want to help you .Which father will hit on her daughter because she is pregnant?
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reader, mon123123 +, writes (3 May 2010):
mon123123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUmm thanks for the advice I took another one I am pregnet I'm thinking of telling my dad when he is wachibg tv so it won't be so acwerd if my mom was hear I would tell her strategy away
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Hey. My advice to you would be to take another test and make sure you're 110% sure. Then just tell your Dad..i know it'll be scary but you have got to tell him. The longer you leave it the worse it will be. I hope this has helped. Take care and i hope everything turns out okay for you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): get pregnancy result back up by your doctor first if you can before telling you dad ... and if you really can't handle a face to face then do what i did, write him a letter explaining. I know its the chicken's way out but seeing as you don't know how he will react and you are obviously worried then it may be worth telling him that way so he has a bit of space to think about it before then eventually talking to you. You could also ring him and tell him - just blurt it out - and if he goes mad, claim to be watching your blood pressure and that you'll talk to him again when he has calms down :)With my mum, which also might work, i waited until the middle of the night ... got myself into an emotional mess (tears, snot, shakes, the works) and i went to her. I actually got in bed too. But i basically said i'd messed up and i didn't know what to do and i couldn't handle this alone etc etc ... okay, i really should have been more specific cos she did actually think i was talking about messing up at college but still, she got the point eventually and reacted great. Except then she started asking me about contriceptives and that no matter what i was gonna be going on pill ASAP lol. I'm not almost six months pregnant and both my parents are really happy and really supportive about having a grandchild - hopefully it works out for you too :)
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