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writes:I know when you read this a lot of you are going to say i'm paranoid and maybe i am but what can i do? Well i'm just absolutly scared of something bad happening like a fire or something at home, i don't know why i just am. The thing is its ruining my life because i hate going out not knowing and not being able to be there. I start college next week and am dreading going because somedays my mum willbe at home and somdays she won't. Now alot of you may find this a bit pathetic but i have certain things in my room that i couldn't bare to lose, they mean so much to me that it would be like losing someone like my mum, there's my dogs ashes and she ment the world to me and that stands in the conservatory as she used to spend a lot of time in there but there's one thing i could never ever bare to lose infact if i did i wouldn't even like to think what i'd do or how life would be. It's a teddy(well a dog) that i brought about 3-4 years ago, i'm geting that bad that mine even having to pull my bed covers right over it every time i go out incase. Its not something i can take with me because its big and people would see it, but believe me if i lost that i wouldn't be able to cope, i don't know why its so special to me it's just one of those things. i've always shut my bedroom door every time i go out anyway but i started doing that when one of my ex best friends told me about her house fire (she wasn't there but her sisters room door was shut and hardly anything got damaged just her cd player wouldn't work but her door was and she hardly got anything back and to top it off we have been having trouble with the central heating that it doesn't always switch off and just keeps starting up again even though the plumber has been to see to it, i bet my mum will call them again at some point but the thing is it doesn't happen everytime it's on and when they came out the first time they got it to work noramlly again and then it started doing it again. But anyway i have always had this problem its just recently its got worse and knowing that somedays my mum won't be at home during the day makes me not want to go to college and i have to to pass the course and i don't want this to get in the way of my life like it is doing now. I'm sure that even if a fire did happen that door being shut and having that teddy-dog thing covered up would be enough so that it wouldn't get damaged right? I know you may think i'm a bit too old to have something like a stuffed animal as something i couldn't live with out but you have no idea of what it means to me and i mean the world but no one in my family knows that and none of my friends do and never will. It's just since i know that electrical faults can cause house fires and stuff and been getting really worried you never know what's gonna happen. I'm really sorry if this confuses anyone and i wouldn't blame anyone if they don't understand why i'm reacting this way. Am I over reacting, please help.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 You're not over reacting. I want you to trace back to when you began having these fears. Did anything happen. Did you see anything happen. Did anything happen to you, a friend or a family member? many times a traumatic event can surface fears. It doesn't have to be your trauma, it could be something that happened to someone else, you hear about it, and the fear is developed. I agree with the person who said call the fire department. They'll come out and complete a safety check for you. Depending on the laws in your country, if unsafe, they may force the repair personnel to fix it within a certain time, or be charged for not doing so.You need some professional help to assist you in dealing with this phobia. I sure hope everything works out for you. It won't be easy, but necessary to live normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Hi i wrote this thanks for the advise but yh it is the only thing i seem to get paranoid about it just since i know theres a problem with the heating i think something will happen. I would rather be at home so i know whats happening becasue if i'm not then i won't know and i'm just so scared of looseing that dog(teddy thing)-please don't judge me on that but it means so much to me, i have taken it places with me befroe when i went to see soemone(a friend) and i was fine because it ws with me and if anything did happen then it would be safe. Just if there no one in the house(theres oinly me and my mum) then if anything happens nothing can be done becasue theres no one there and by the time somehting was done it would be to late. I don't even know if it is an electrical fault or anything,the plumber did say something about this man had the same problem and he got in such a mess he has to turn it off at the mains from outside(the centrl heating)because it wouldn't go off, but the main reason is because i just can't bare to loose it i don't know where to put it that it would be safe(thwe dog)its just like a aprt of me, imagine if you lost your mum,dad,bf/gf all in one go it would be like that. hope this help you see more of my problem but i tried not to make my question really logn.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (9 September 2007):
You might be Obsessive-compulsive or have a lot of anxieties. In fact you sound like me, but to the extreme. I have a lot of weird fears like this too, but think it through and that is why I never got to the point you are at. Some times I think of strange things that may happen, weird and impossible situations or ones that are highly unlikely. But I think it through and realize that I am being ridiculous. You need to think it through logically. Some times the thoughts linger around and don't go away. But I force myself to not do anything about it and let it disrupt my life, and you know what? It is pure torture upfront, but when you do this a couple of times, it goes away. You get conditioned then to realize nothing bad will happen and you can trust your own logic.
You may need to see a psychiatrist to get started in the right direction. Your case may also have amplified because you are anxious about going to college and life changing so much. Basically, are you afraid to go to college because of this, or are you creating a reason not to go because you are afraid of the change college will bring?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 September 2007):
 We all have fears about something whether it be spiders, heights or fires.
If you are that concerned call you local fire staion and ask them if they could come round and check your house for you and put in smoke detectors everywhere, they can also go through all saftety precausions with you and also escape routes in case it is needed, my local station done this for me for free and it makes me feel alot better.
Take care.xx.
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