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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Its been 5 years of dating my long distance bf..he remembered my bday twice.. Last year he sent me flowers and made me feel real special..It's the 6th year now and bday is couple of days away and I know he doesn't remember(am very sure).. I have never forgotten his or his close ones(he does remembers his kids n mum's and brother)..we love each other truly..but am I not as special as he says I am? Is it wrong for me to feel bad if he doesn't remember?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2015): I personally would not stay in a Long Distance Relationship for 5 years. Maybe 1 year, maybe 2 years, or 3 years at most.. But 5 years..
Also, men are men... Rarely are they as attentive as women. Just remind him.. Hint to him..
However, personally as a woman, I can be attentive, but I cannot remember my boyfriend's birthday. I remember his family members birthdays... every single one of them.. but all I can remember is the month he was born. I set a reminder on my phone's calendar to remimd me every year... But just because I cannot remember his birthdate, does not mean I don't love him. I show my love and attention in other ways.
Don't put too much significance in one single event/thing. Look at the entire picture. How does he treat you on a daily basis? Does he make you feel loved?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2015): Long distance for almost 6 years? Exactly how special can he make you feel special when you've lived so far apart for so long? Do you really consider that dating?
Find yourself someone local, who can attach his feelings. It will be easier to make you feel special when he can be near you most of the time. That's still no guarantee he'll always remember your birthday.
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