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writes:My wife and I have two kids (4yrs and 1yr). We separated a year ago. We were having constant arguments which turned physical a few times. We have recently started to communicate. We both have taken our times and have gone through separate individual counselling sessions. We have even decided to be committed Christians. We intend to start couples therapy soon with a view of reconciling. I had sort for forgiveness from my father in law awhile back but he was not ready to talk. I contacted him again and now he is ready to meet me and hear me out. I want to apologise but I don't know how to go about it. Any tips and help would be very very appreciated.... How do I go about it? What do I say to him?
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (16 November 2015):
If I was your wife's dad I might understand you two having your difficulties but I would go nuclear if I knew you'd physically abused her. That could very well be at the heart of his anger.
Have a very sincere talk with him, admitting what has happened, how you now feel about it, that you've been thru counseling, how it has changed you, how you've been enlightened, and your plan for reconciliation. Just be truthful and sincere, and also tell him how much your relationship with both him and his daughter means to you. And how much you respect him (assuming that you do).
I wish the best for all of you!
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (15 November 2015):
There's no particular way to go about it. A straight forward and sincere apology, is what you need to do. No beating about the bush.
I few don'ts would be to not try to point out anyone else's faults. Stick to your mistakes and apologise and tell him how sincerely you want to make things better.
Good luck
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