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writes: I feel so alone and I don't know what to do.I live with my boyfriend and he owns the house. We just had an argument of sorts and he blames it all on me; it wasn't over anything serious. He gets angry pretty quick and can be quite threatening sometimes. He charges towards me as if to hit me and the other night he punched me in the back because I wouldn't let something drop. It did hurt and I was quite shocked that he had done it.I am strong minded and I do say what I believe in. I think sometimes I do go on a bit, I am opinionated. Yet I suffer from anxiety and I have nowhere to go if he throws me out but it doesn't stop me from not wanting to be treated badly. After this argument, he left the house, knowing I couldn't go out, knowing that I would feel bad, to go to the pub and leave me on my own. He said it was my fault. I feel so miserable and so alone.I want a life so desperately. I love him to bits but he has me over a barrel. If I don't do what he wants, be quiet when he wants, then he can threaten me with me having to go or being put in the spare room.Other times he can be so loving and so warm. I feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster. One minute I think he is the only one for me, the next that it can never work. Going out tonight, its like he is punishing me and I can't do anything about it, I suffer from agoraphobia.Everything inside me tells me that this isn't the way to be treated, that I should say something when he gets in, whenever that may be, but it will just make things worse. I would never do this to him.Please help, I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): I don't know how you can possibly say you love this person. This isn't love. This is a sick situation. You need to seek medication and counseling for your illness and then get away from this monster as fast as you can. Read your own letter.
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reader, Dear auntie +, writes (14 May 2005):
I feel very concerned for you; both for your physical and mental health. This man is demoralising you and his mood swings are making your life impossible. Can you see yourself living this way until you die? Please be honest with yourself - love is not a punch in the back! I cannot imagine what it is like to live with aggrophobia, but if you can find the strength to leave the house, please leave. A leopard never changes his spots. Is he waiting to see how far you will let him go? This is one of the most frightening and brave things you will ever do. You will have to be hard and not waver; not easy I know, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): Hi hunny.I think in your heart of hearts you know what you have to do.You say he believes that you have nowhere else to go.There is always somewhere to go even if it is only round a mates back to your parents a womens refuge.I think if you proved him wrong and went away somewhere for a while he would soon be thinking she only went and did it i never thought she would.My ex husband used physical and mental bombardment and verbal abuse to almost completely destroy me but then one day i really had a good think to myself and decided that enough was enough.I found somewhere to go and i have never looked back since.Surely you have a right to some love and respect.I think you deserve that much at least.Good luck and take care ok.Hope this helps a bit.You are in my thoughts.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): If he's hitting you babe, get out of that relationship A.S.A.P! its only going to get worse if you keep letting him doing it. be strong! if he hits you again pack your stuff and walk out, he will come chasing, guaranteed, then you've just got to put your foot down and let him know that you are not going to take that at all! if he carries on, get him beaten the shit out of and get as far away from him as possible, he's obviously not worth knowing.
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