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writes: Dear Cupid, after having a baby 7 years ago I have lost my feeling to have sex. I don't seem to want it anymore. I don't feel normal. Now me and my partner are arguing about it.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 October 2005):
 A lot of women go off sex at sometime in their life for a variety of reasons. You had your baby a while ago so it may or may not be connected but it's obviously getting to you so you need to get it sorted.
When I feel down, I don't want sex either so I know I have to make myself feel happy and sexy but dressing up, having my hair/nails done etc. If you feel confident in yourself, you know other people want you and that's uplifting.
If your problem is more serious and deep-set than mine, you may need some professional help. Look into some kind of counselling through your doctor to find the route of your problem, it could me mental or physical. Then you can start to solve it more successfully and get back to having fun between the sheets!
Your partner needs to be more understanding but he can't understand if you don't tell them how you feel. Don't just make an excuse like 'i've got a headache' or 'i'm too tired'. Be honest and make him understand, this is a relationship between 2 people and you're not just there to please him. Good luck.
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reader, not again +, writes (22 October 2005):
I was listening to the radio last week and a lady was talking about the same problem. She said that reading "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" really really helped her.
I havent read the book but you could give it a try, it worked for her!!
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