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writes: hi there,Me and my fiance' are expecting a baby! This is absolutely an amazing feeling for me and I cant wait! It seems like me and her are drifting apart though and that she is not comfortable with the new life we are about to start. She is in general not a very affectionate person, but these days she seems to withdraw completely. I am currently planning my whole life around our relationship and it feels like I am on my own.I am a very affectionate person, and there is not a day that goes by where I dont have a strange feeling in my stomach caused by wories if she still wants to support our relationship. I have tried to speak to her, but she gets upset and blames almost everything on the pregnancy. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): Being a mother of 2 kids, a 4 year and a 4 month old, I would like to offer advice. Pregnancy makes a woman feel strange, the hormones, the baby growing inside her feels so strange. Being the first she does not know what to expect and it can leave a person withdrawn and worried, even to the point of no interest in intamacy. Just go with the flow the best time of pregnancy is I believe beetween 4-7 months and then she may feel better. Just be there for her when she needs you to be and if she wants her space give it to her. She will be fine and I think you both will be just fine. Also remember after she has the baby get up and take care of the baby at night she will need the rest and she will think very highly of you for it.
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I can understand how excited you are,and your partner too, but she proberly has alot of fears thats why she's not feeling it like you are,im very sure it most proberly is to do with her pregnancy ..you need to understand that for a woman and being pregnant for the very first time is a life changing situation,it can be very scary believe me i was just the same,coming to the terms of motherhood is a very scary experience,also trying to come to face that she's going to be responsible for a person for many years to come,and also playing a role as a mother,some women get very stressed being pregnant for the very first time,not knowing what to expect and what to be prepared for, labour,birth ect..thats proberly why she feels distant from you, also you need to realise that her hormones are changing and shel proberly have mood swings..my advise would be just to support her and talk to her about this and tell her your with her 100%,tell her if she has any worries or concerns to talk to you about it so you can get through it together, as time goes on im sure she'l come round and get used to the idea of motherhood and it will be a very exciting time for the both of you as time gets nearer.
GOOD LUCK..
xLEAHx
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