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writes: All my friends ever talk about now were 18 seems to be sex, we've all had it but I haven't for ages and it just makes me feel so undesireable, how can I not be so affected by temall just alking about their boyfriends and sex? It just makes me feel really sad Reply to this Question
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reader, kitty-cat=]  +, writes (28 June 2010):
![kitty-cat=] agony aunt](/avatars/4e276644-588c-43d2-bf37-fe35b92660b5.png) i know how you feel. im waiting for the right guy and all my friends talk about is their boyfriends at first it was kind of cute but now it's annoying and it makes me feel no one wants me. just wait, you'll find someone. or maybe you could tell them it bothers you? i know im afraid to because i want to be there for them but i want to experience my own relationship, not theirs. just try to change the subject :) you'll find someone.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Your friends may not be lying about having sex, but they are actually being very immature about the whole thing.Adult women who are in serious relationships rarely discuss the intimate details of their sex lives, and the fact that your friends are talking about it shows that they are really playing grown-up.
Start hanging out more with single girls who have things to talk about other than their boyfriends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionchigirl it's not like i think there is some correlation its just that they're bragging and i can't and that makes me feel like people want to be with them but not with me ever
and caring guy i know there not lying because i'm friends with alot of there bfs as well
also now it just feels like i'm sat around with like 10 couples, it's anoying because they are all getting to live a part of life that i'm not.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 June 2010):
Desire and sex are two different things. You're getting them mixed up. Okay, so your friends go on about sex. You don't really know whether they're telling the truth though. My experience with people is the more they go on about it, the less they actually know. That's unattractive in someone. If I heard a woman going on about sex all the time and her own sex life, to be honest it wouldn't make me think she was desirable. To be desirable, a woman needs to be herself, she needs to have an element of mystery to her. She needs to make men want to know more about her. That won't happen to your friends. Everyone already knows everything. Just try to steer the conversation elsewhere if you're uncomfortable. But don't go thinking you're not desirable. Quite the opposite.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Try to talk about other things? This happens all the time, next time around you will be the one who has something you talk about all the time that your friends don't. You just have to learn how to not let this affect you. So they have sex, you have other things going on in your life as well. Try to accept that they want to talk about sex, and learn from their experiences. Then you can try and move the conversation on to something you want to talk about. Them having sex does not make you undesirable. Can you see how weird that sounds? Like you would be more desirable if they didn't have sex? Nopes, those two things are not connected. Don't fool yourself into thinking they are.
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