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anonymous
writes:Hello fello aunts and uncles! Im 19 years old, really attractive, smart and outgoing. I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life but never anything serious. 2 of these boyfriends turned out to be players and jerks who only wanted sex and I was heartbroken. Then I tried dating a nice guy and for about the first week, it was great. After that, he seemed like he didnt want to hang out with me anymore or didnt know what to do in the relationship (ex: he would tell me me he wad going to bed at 9 and then I saw him with his friends at like midnight) and I ended up breaking up with him. Even though people constantly tell me how pretty I am, I rarely get hit on and when I do, its just by players ot creepers. I mean where are all the decent guys? I see all these girls in serious relationships and its not fair that I dont have one too! Are guys afraid to talk to me? When will I get a real relationship :(
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (10 January 2009):
 i feel the same way just like you!!
your really young guys see you as a pretty chick that has no feelings all the decent guys are somewhere you will find them you just need to be patient be hard on them when a guy asked you out don't say yea right away say something about i have plans or I'll think about it....that will make a guy feel that oh know this is a serious woman and they will treat you like princes and just respect you more that's what i did and it worked you should try it if it works tell me all about it :) hoped i helped ;0
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 That nice guy still sounded like a player.
I'll tell you some tricks ladies. I know some women who been in a somewhat similar circumstance and i've helped lots of them in a similar situation to you. Years ago at university, I had a girl who was very similar. I experimented and said to her to check the library out, within a week she came back to me and said "my god! i didn't know that!" and for the first time she fell in love. I believe she is now very happily married with him.
The guys you are looking for have their heads screwed on, they do not go out all that much they hang out in libraries and study very heavily because they are too busy building there future careers, I know some look geeky but there are some hot ones if you try looking. Not to mention they are as lonely as you are and would love to have a bit of company, so check your libraries. the type of bloke you are looking for should be passionate about his career, his life and not 'always' a party animal. just sometimes with you by his side.
Players and creepers, unless they are from a wealthy family end up no hopers anyway. But as the anonymous post, said, they are the guys who will keep you having fun for a while.
If you just want that one special guy now then snap that library/studier up as quick as you can, he will most likely be married and taken by 25-30 and all the lonely guys will be the players and creepers that have nothing to offer you. And you won't you want to date them any more. Though some will fall through and change for the better.
Good luck!
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reader, LoveyDoveyBear +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Ever heard ppl say that you'll most likely find something or someone when u least expect it? Or at least I believe in that, yeah i'm going to agree with the anonymous female down below about being 19 and young, just focus on yourself, be busy and good guys will start to notice and come around your way, you have nothing to worry about.
I've been in your situation before and use to think the same, but I found out that most guys were just too shy to come and talk to me, or somewhat intimidated. Just be friends with a bunch of guys and kind of see who seems right for you, and don't let them have sex with you so fast, if thats all they want, you can tell right away.
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reader, Angeljc1 +, writes (10 January 2009):
i think ur in the same boat as me. people tell me im pretty but i only get hit on by old guys or players. i think we are both going to have to try the dating game a little while longer before we find the right guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Hate to be the barer of bad news but your only 19 and are going to have to go through alot of Mr. wrongs before you find Mr. Right. I'm 29 and still looking ! enjoy your youth. they always say youth is wasted on the young, honey if I knew then what I know now ! good luck just be yourself and then it will all fall into place.
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