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writes:Ok, so there's this guy and today I'm going to go for it. We have a bit of history (in the form of me crushing on him 100% about a year ago) but after a few discussions with his best friend who I'm really close with, I have decided to talk to him.Lay the cards out on the table and tell him what it was I saw in him last year and that I still see those things in him.His best friend has been amazing, telling me to go for it, giving me tips so that I wont scare him away again (the guy I like is very shy and has never had a gf before), so mainly by repeating that this wont damage our friendship etc. etc. I just need to know if I'm doing the right thing? Becuase somewhere deep inside me I'm hesitating- will we be able to get through this without it affecting us if he doesn't resiprocate? Should I go through with it, or just accept that if it was meant to be it would've happened?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 Just go for it. Don't underestimate just how shy he could be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): I think it depends. I mean, if you don't go for it, will you torture yourself wondering "what if..."? If so, then it might be best to go for it. At least then you'll know. I can't see how this would have disastrous consequences if he doesn't feel the same way. Are you worried things will be awkward between you and him, or between you and his best friend, who you are also close to? I am a bit confused on that one.
If you are worried how this will affect your friendship with his friend, then I can't see how it will be affected. Nothing should change between the two of you. And if you are worried about how things will be between you and this guy if he doesn't feel the same way, again, I can't see how it would be too awkward. It sounds like you don't really know each other personally anyway, so I don't think it would get messy at all.
So if you really want to know, then go for it!
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