A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: Hello, I have a problem with meeting guys. I'm a 16 year old female from an extremely small town. All of the people my age I know and I am not attracted to them. Everyone who is older is off to college. I am very shy and don't know how to meet people. It's not like I can join one of our 4 clubs and magically meet new people. Or sports. Or anything like that. My friends show me the same type of 'let's go mudrun in my oversized truck and get drunk'guy that I'm just not into. Is it so hard to find someone who actually reads books and doesn't have to text to have a conversation? I don't know many people from out of town so this situation is very hard for me. I don't party or anything like that....What's left for me to do?
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reader, ooops +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi,
as written in the official material:
when you are absolutely out of possible mates - move to a bigger city!
Yes, the solution is to move to a more crowded city / town and the another important thing is to go to college!
People not going to college to get a degree, more like socializing and building relationships - you will realize this in 3-5 years :).
Additional benefit is that you will have new, interesting friends!
If college is usually @18 in your area, don't wait till then, act sooner, move to another high school and dorm could be good 4 u.
You definitely don't want to waste another 2 years.
A
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reader, Odds +, writes (4 September 2010):
Well, either the guys who hang out and home to read all the time are not attractive to you, or they don't exist (or both). If that's the case, best to hold off for now. Don't bother with dating or hooking up.
When you graduate high school, get out of town. If you're going to college, great; if not, just find a job in a larger city and move there. Focus on school so you'll look good in a job interview. You have to move to where the good guys are.
When you do move into a bigger town, be cautious of all the guys out there who will seem attractive just because they are different. Many are players. If that's your thing, great; if not, avoid them and try to meet guys at bookstores. Good luck.
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