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writes:I am 38 and have been in a relationship with a man for eight months now. He spends time with me during the week and sleeps at my house but when it is Friday sometimes he goes drinking with his friends without telling me. Then he comes home later. His brother is visiting at the moment and hence he isn't spending the time with me nor is he telling me what he is up to. He is being very distant. Does this mean he is going to leave me? Am I over thinking all this when I say I dont like it if he doesn't tell me where he is. Should he not still tell me his plans or what he is doing on the weekend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (3 October 2015):
 His (apparent) secrecy about what he does on the weekends SHOULD concern you. What are you? .... his "work-week" girl???? ... whilest he is free to go out whoring on the weekends??????
Remember,... if he's fooling around elsewhere... then YOU are "sleeping" with all those others with whom he exchanges body fluids....
I'd be cautious....
Good luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2015): Generally I find that even though he doesn't have to tell you anything, if he wants a relationship to work with you it is common courtesy to at least let you know what his plans are, especially if you are planning to do something with him that day.The fact that you say he usually goes out every Friday should give you an indicator of what he's doing so maybe you should remind yourself of that if it continues to become a regular thing, just so it eases your mind.As for him leaving you, as the above user mentioned nobody here can really answer that for you except your boyfriend, it's up to you if you want to confront him on that but be warned it can come off as you being insecure with your relationship and thus spreading doubt in not only your mind but his, no matter what answer he gives you.You should definitely sit down with him when you get the chance and discuss your feelings with him if you haven't already done so, maybe he's unaware that it's bothering you and thinks you're ok with him going out with his friends and doesn't feel the need to tell you. As for him not spending time with you because of his brother, you definitely need to confront him on that and possibly come up with a compromise, if he wants a relationship with you he really shouldn't be neglecting you just to spend time with his brother.I hope I've helped and that your problem gets resolved, take care and the best of luck to you :).
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (2 October 2015):
Well, he is a grown man and you aren't his mother, so to be perfectly honest he does not have to tell you his whereabouts 24/7. You really don't have the right to demand it, either. Many adults enjoy their freedom and don't want to answer to someone else all the time, relationship or no. Especially if you aren't even living together.
That said, is he lying to you? If he's lying to you then that isn't cool.
We are not going to be able to tell you whether he plans on leaving you. Only he knows that, and just spending time with his brother who is visiting doesn't sound to me like reason to worry, but I don't know him and don't know what's going through his head.
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