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writes:So i have been with this guy for 2 years and i love him completely, but im really confused because lately i have had Major feelings for somone he knows. he isnt really mates with him. He is on his new footy team. I have spoken to him more than my guy has. Anyway My guy and i have decided to have a break for the last week and a bit so that i can work myself out. We have not been intimate for a few months, and all we do is argue about everything, and we don't do anything together except go to the places he wants to go. So this other guy has come onto the scene, and he originally was giving me advice on my confusion about my guy, telling me to be honest with him and all that, and then its ended up now that we talk every day and flirt heaps, and i have really enjoyed it! The other day we met up, and we kissed. HE wants to take things further, but i love my guy, and dont think i want to because it is not fair on either person. But im also worried about if i don't do anything with him but i get back together with the guy im on the break with, and i will have to see this guy every week at footy and these feelings stay, ! i have 2 main questions... one is it normal to have feelings for someone else when you LOVE someone?? and 2, if my guy and i DO get back together, should i tell him that i kissed the guy, or is that just not fair. like i feel i should tell him because i feel guilty and i want to be honest, but i dont think its fair of me to make him hurt, and cause a major issue between the footy team, just to make myself feel better.
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reader, Batgirl_06 +, writes (30 October 2008):
Batgirl_06 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks heaps. It helps alot to have unbiased opinions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): You did not cheat on him. You had a break from each other and were free to date and do whatever you want. You did nothing wrong. You only kissed the guy. Don't mention anything as he will probably not believe you that it was only a kiss.
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reader, dreamer08  +, writes (30 October 2008):
My partner and I went on a break last year after being together for about 5 years. I went with someone else during that time and a few days later got back together with my b/f. I told him exactly what happened, and as the time he was upset but seemed to get over it. However, a year down the line and I'm still not even allowed to mention the other guys name, and he still thinks I'm going to leave him. So in some senses it depends on how you think your guy will take it. And also how important honesty is in a relationship. I personally believe things happen for a reason, did going with the other guy made you feel really bad and realise that you really do love the guy you are on a break with??... if not, I think you know the answer...
Not saying that I am right, don't just take my opinion... but thats my belief
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