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writes:[OP original title]My fiance is deployed and we were having problems. I kept having doubts on if I still wanted to marry him or not and he said that it hurt him a lot. There was a girl that likes him over there, and while we were going through our problems she kept coming onto him. He walked away a few times, but his friends egged him on and he kissed her (made out. He didn't sleep with her and he stopped it and said that it was wrong. After he realized what he had done he told me and was crying about how sorry he was. He felt sick to his stomach and that he loved me so much. I know that I love him, but this really hurts me. It has made me reevaluate a lot of things. I know we are meant to be, but I need to ask where do we go from here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): I hate cheating and normally have no sympathy or kindness for people who do, but in this case there are several things you have to consider.
Have you figured out if you really love him? Is he the one you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with? Do you believe him when he says it didn't go any farther than kissing? Is he truly remorseful? (and you can tell)
The fact that he told you about it is much to his credit. If he is "the one", and you can honestly answer yes to the questions, then I think he deserves a second chance.
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reader, MIyanda117 +, writes (8 August 2010):
I have heard once a cheater always a cheater, but I believe people make mistakes and you should always give them a second chance to screw up. If he screws up again let him go. But also be happy he can be honest with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): If he only kissed her and he told you about it, maybe you can try make it work? just make it clear to him, if it happens again then it be over. He will be away from you quite a bit and you need to be able to trust him with other women.
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