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41-50,
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writes:My problem is that I “was” in love with my husband’s best friend Max,When I found out that Max had the same feeling for me things got really out of control, to make the story short we did sleep together once,when we realized that if we continued to be close it would end up on us hurting my husband who is a great guy and we never wanted to hurt him.We never meant for it to happen but it did, hurting my husband was the last thing we intended to do, anyways Max decided that he would no longer hang outwith me or his best friend "my husband" it was too painful for him.This hurt all of us so much including my Husband because we were all so close. Now Max was extremelysuccessful and ambitious but as soon as he distanced himself everything went down the drain, job, house, friends etc… he is using drugs, alcohol and now is even in trouble with the law. It took me a long time to get over the pain of losing him,I was honest with my husband and addressed our personal issues so we could work on them,Now me and my husband are doing extremely well but out of no where Max decides he wants to come back into our life’s, these are all the cons why I don’t want him back: I am scared of these feelings resurfacing.Its exhausting worrying about him. I have better things to worry about (my own family)I cried enough for him to the point of trying to commit suacide.He may not snap out of it, or he can get worst.Pros:My husband wants his friend back believe it or not.Max might be reaching out for help and I don’t want to turn my back on him.He may snap out of it if he sees someone still cares.I am scared he can die or end up in jail I want to help him but emotionally I know I shouldn’t,I think my husband wants Max back in our life so I can see what has become of him but will not let me help him nor expect me to care.Any advise? I am so confused.Before you give me advise please conceder that this is someone I love and this is a life or death situation and also take in consideration that I do not want to be with Max, being weak is not a turn on to me.before you lecture me and tell me how wrong I was,I already know and beat myself up enough for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not insacure at all, as a matter a fact yes I was friends with his ex girlfriend I dont have a problem with it, I say que sera sera (whatever will be, will be)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I told him everything because I was going to leave at the time and we worked things out I didnt want to start off with lies. The truth always comes out anyways.Thank you for your answer.
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