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writes:My wife an I are about the same age, 28. We've been married for 8 years and have 2 kids. She has an older friend who is nearing 40, and has known the guy before highschool. We live in a town of about 3000ppl so you get to know just about everyone within 10-15 years of your own age. I know the guy, and to be fair, he's not a bad person. He's not married, no kids, and at his job he is close to the top so he makes really good money. So, this guy goes to where my wife works (its a small place, 2 workers, lots of free time) and is talking with her. He ask her if she wants to go to dinner or have drinks. She said no. Before he leaves he gives her a Visa Gift Card for $500. Now, I had lost my job for almost 3 weeks before getting a new one and he said the Card was to help out. My wife told me about the card 3 days later and that he had asked her out. I asker her to give the card back to him. She had a friend give the card back saying my husband was not really great on the idea. And that was the end of it for the last 9months untill last week. The guy had one of my wifes friend give her a Credit Card in her name. The guy also asked the friend for my wife's cell and the friend gave it to him. My wife took the card and this time did not tell me about it, and she spent the $500 limit. Her cell received a text msg yesterday and I picked up the phone to hand it to her and she about killed herself trying to get to the phone. She took the phone and went outside for awhile. When she came in the house she told me this guy was texting her and she told me about the Credit Card. That she had maxed it out and he paid the balance and told her that it was paid and was ready for when she wanted to go shopping again. She said the text had been flirty and along those lines. She told him that nothing will happen and asked what did he expect to gain by giving her this card. He said that perhaps one day she would go out with him. I asked her why did you spend his money and she replied that if he was ok with it, why shouldn't we be ok with it. AND YOU KNOW WHAT....I DON'T HAVE AN ANSWER. I know this can't be good for our marriage, but she IS upfront with me, and when he text her she showes me. He is still real flirty with her on the texts, and she always tells him that she is married and loves her husband, and he's like pretending he does not see it. So what should we do? Keep spending his money? He knows about me and I know about him and he keeps paying the bill. Well, she maxed it out that one time, and we went to town together last week and used most of it and he has already paid off the balance. So, what.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Sounds like this guy now has both of you in his pocket. No one just gives you money like this without something in return. He sounds like he has a major crush on your wife. She was wrong in the first place to spend any money on his card, and now you have got yourself in a mess also. The only way I can think of to salvage any of this, is to start paying a certain amount of money every month until you owe this man and his card no more. Pay every penny back and then have noting more to do with him. Move away if you want to salvage your marriage. This could start to get messy once he realises you are cutting all ties with him and you don't know what he could be telling all the people you know, it doesn't sound good does it. Not many people give you money, for nothing, there is always a price to pay at the end of the day. hope this helps.
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