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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:You know those stories about how a guy and girl know each other for a really long time and they're best friends and they fall in love and get together? Yeah, that happened to me.And then you know about those same stories but they end in actually breaking up and being totally weird about it afterward? Yeah, that's also just happened to me.My best friend and I tried the dating thing and it worked for four years and ten months. We were even engaged to be married next month (the day of our five year anniversary)! We had our whole lives planned out around each other and our goals and dreams were similar and everything. Everyone, including myself, thought we were a match made in heaven and everything was just perfect between us. No better love, ya know?And then two days ago, he tells me he kind of feels weird about all of this. I asked him what he meant and he said, "You're my best friend, (my name). Shouldn't we only be best friends?"I started freaking out because I thought he was going to break up with me and it turns out, that was his plan! Now I can't even look at him without wanting to throw him out a window!He was my best friend since we were seven, my boyfriend since we were twenty-one, and my fiance since we were twenty-five. I simply can not imagine being with anyone else besides him and I know he feels the same about me, but he told he only wanted to be friends!Is it possible he's only getting cold feet about the wedding? Or is it something more serious? How do I get my best friend and lover back? I'm so unbelievably hurt and confused and just want to know what went wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Oh you poor girl. It sounds like a case of cold feet to me. Have you tried talking it out with him? Lots of guys go through this when the wedding gets close. My suggestion is you sit down with him and get all your feelings out on the table. That way you can sort them out together. As you said you two have been a team for a long time. You can work this out together. I really wish you luck and hope it works out for you. Please keep me posted on how its going.
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