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writes:so blah blah blah this is nothing original, my boyfriend cheated on me last year and I'd always kinda kept my emotions wrapped up and stayed strong through it all. However on Saturday i was at a party and he was sayin how sorry he was and it all just came out anyway we hugged and made up and he promised he would never do anything like that again he just wanted me back. I want to stay strong but i still love him is it worth it or once a cheat always a cheat ?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (20 March 2009):
 hi i would get to know him again and see for yourself whether you feel he has changed or not.
but if you still feel paranoid thinking is he with someone at the moment why isn't he replying?
then i'd possibly give it up but... you never know this whole year without you may have actually changed him
but don't rush into it take your time to get to know him again and familiarise yourself with him again and take it from there :)
best of luck :-D
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reader, shiraz * +, writes (19 March 2009):
hiyah
i think only you can answer that, your always going to have it in the back of your mind will he wont he and that doubt will cause difficluties that shouldnt be there but given the past clearly are. Unless you are both 100% into it then its never going to work, dont force yourself back into something that hurt you so bad remember your emotions are going mad now hes back on the scene dont fall too deep too soon, youll end up with the wrong one and hurt all over agin. youve asked the question so is the trust there? i dont know if people do get over the past, they try and some succeed but its never quiet the same as what it once was. remember that. best of luck xxx
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reader, Niema.x +, writes (19 March 2009):
Niema.x is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks star !
great advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): hola Niema.x.,
Only time will tell. There are no rules.
I think the fact he still fancies you a year later is a good thing - but might be worth seeing him outside of the party in daylight and just talking to him over coffe.
trust your instincts - if you dont feel right then don't get involved again.
Star.x.
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