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writes:hi, I'm only 13 years old and theres this guy; hes 17. I went out with him at the beginning of the summer then we broke up cause we didnt want to get in trouble and im still in love with him. I think about him 24 7 and i recently found out he likes me still also and i found this online ouija board and asked it if we he wuld break up with his gf at the time and it said yes and today i found out they broke up. I asked if we would date and it said yes and i also asked it if we would get married and it said yes. Am i crazy or what? He's also about to turn 18 in 3 months sholuld we break the laws and date if were really in love please please write back asap
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): There's nothing wrong with dating him, assuming your parents are okay with it. Dating is just spending time together and getting to know eachother. Just don't have sex. That would be illegal, and he would end up in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Its not illegal to date. Just frowned upon.But the fact that you wnat relationship advice from a child's toy really frightens me.Flynn 24
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reader, smexi kitten +, writes (15 September 2008):
smexi kitten is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the awnsers and he knows that i hsave a purity ring and that im ganna wait til im married to have sex if thats the only thing people are worried about then i would say that its probably ok to date him casuse were in love and i wouldnt want to ruin my body education and lif just because i had sex and accidentaly got pregnant im not that stupid
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): Hon, if you really 'love' him, don't let him break the law for you. If you both still feel the same at a more appropriate age then by all means go out with him. You're only 13, and I know you feel old enough and think you're in love, you're much too young to be dating someone so much older than you. You at a different maturity level than him, sorry hon, that's just the way it is.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 In 5 years time, no one will be able to stop you and him from having a relationship. I'd keep it as a friendship until then and if you both still feel the same way in 5 years time, get together.
But if you love him, like you say you do, then you'll leave him alone until then because like the others have said, he will be wanting sex soon and you're way too young, but even if you decide to give him sex, he'll still be in the wrong, even with consent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): If you are willing to make a choice based on some Ouija board about something that could affect your life and his mostly in a negative way, then you have a lot to learn about life. There are no coincedences, there is no such thing as fate. Life is about the choices you make, and hopefully you will learn to make the smart ones.
You are 13 going on 21, unfortuneately....the laws are there to protect young people like yourself who do not have the foresight or the life experience to make smart choices concerning whom to get intimately involved with, especially sexually. I hope you wait to take that step as there are many reasons why this would not be the right thing to do.
Did you know that having sex at a very young age puts you at a very high risk of contracting the HPV virus that leads to cervical cancer a potentially deadly disease and one that could end your child bearing years before they even start? You are not physically or biologically old enough to have sex without some damage being done, and then there is the emotional aspects. Most 13 year olds are not mature enough to handle the emotions that come up around sex or to handle the rejection that will most certainly come when this 17 year old is done with you.
I suggest that you talk to a trusted adult, not a peer about how you are feeling and ask them for some help. If this guy breaks the law and has sex with you even if it is consensual, he can be charged with child molestation or statuatory rape and it will become a part of his permanent record, these types of records are made public in the US on a website for all to see. Have some consideration for that as well and tell him you are too young, he needs to find someone closer to his own age to date.
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reader, 12344 +, writes (14 September 2008):
hey im 15 i would go for it im fed up off all these old people telling u shouldnt or you should wait and who cares if he wasnts sex hello there in love!!! im know this sounds stupid but these peoplle r just pisseing me off
go for it hun i would
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reader, shadycrazy  +, writes (14 September 2008):
i dont know, it would be his head on the chopping block, maybe you should save him from himself and not be with him
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (14 September 2008):
 Crazy about the online ouija board - yes. Don't pay attention to those things. It was mere coincidence.
I understand that you think you're in love - not intentionally trying to sound patronising there! But you must understand that you are very young. And although the age gap isn't huge - it's in a very unfortunate place.
As he is at an age where he's going to want to explore himselof and other people - he's bound to want sex. It's in his nature. The only reason why I advise you to hold off is because I wouldn't want him to pressure you in to anything.
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