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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HeyJust a question to understand men...we had a crush on each other.. For a longggg timeHe was so. Shy around me.. Never talked to me that much.. Only said hi.. Just condial. I did not reciprocate the feelings because I am not ready for any commited or serious relationship...So I decided to be best friend with his colleague... So that he could think otherwise n leave me alone.. Which he didn't like... 3 months of not seeing him because of covid have brought out a totally different person... His very friendly confident social.. It's surprising...his no longer afraid to come to me and jazz me stuff... Should this be a sign that the crush is done on his end? While I still have a crush on him.. I am still not ready for anything sexual...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2020): Sometimes people simply like to flirt and enjoy the knowledge that you may find them attractive. They may reciprocate the flirtation, and often be cordial; as you've described your interaction with your crush.
Grown-ups usually bypass the silly games and make a serious attempt to make a real connection. If things just go on and on and on with nothing more than flirting; then he is either already taken, or not interested romantically. He just finds you friendly and attractive.
I will assume English is your second-language; which accounts for the dodgy-grammar, misspelling, and poor sentence-structure.
Guys who are married, or have a girlfriend (or boyfriend); will flirt with you. That might be only as far as it goes. If your flirtations escalate, he might assume you just want to fool-around. If he's married or has a girlfriend, that's a terrible idea. Even worse, if he's bisexual; and that's not remotely your cup of tea!
You're both adults, quit with the "crush" nonsense, and ask him what he's up-to? Pose the question is he interested in dating in the near-future, or does he just like to flirt? It's been 3 months for crying out-loud!!!
Leave crushing for teenagers where it belongs. If you don't know his relationship status; maybe you should stop flirting. Like Honeypie advises; stop over-reading and grasping for straws. Ask him if he's interested in dating when Covid-19 restrictions are lifted? If you don't even know if the guy likes you for certain, how on earth does any consideration about sex come into the picture??? For all you know he's gay! Why won't he act like a grown-ass man and ask you out already? Somebody do something!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 August 2020):
 Maybe try and STOP reading more into this there there is. Seems like you are putting the cart before the horse here.
He had a crush on you. You played down your own interest and focused on another guy. When you then see him again he is no longer shy. DOESN'T mean he at ANY time wanted a relationship or sex with you.
A crush just means there is some chemistry and attraction going on.
If you don't want anything sexual or serious, KEEP it profession and the banter non sexual. Just light and fun.
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