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writes:Should it be right for the girl to always make the first move when it comes to sex?? I have been seeing my boyfriend now for just over 2 months and he's 28. I wouldn't necessarily say that he's shy however some nights when i go down to see him we just sit and watch a dvd and cuddle. It is nice and i do like spending time with him but shouldn't the start of a relationship be the point where we are both ripping each others clothes off??And i feel that almost every time that it is always me that is making the first move to have sex. I love having sex with him, it is amazing, i just wish that it would be him sometimes to instigate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): I think there has been good advice given so far. My last GF never initiated. Never. It drove me nuts. There is nothing I find sexier than a woman who knows what she wants and is willing to make it happen.
One thing that comes to my mind is that he may be trying to judge if there is more to the relationship than just the physical. Sometimes when we are blinded with lust, we don't see if we are actually a good match with the person we've chosen. By spending some time together, without sex, you can often see if you like eachother more deeply. He may be trying to judge if you will be together for the long term after the "sex phase" wears off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Depends on the guy. Like Caring Guy said, my girlfriend used to be the queen of the "no" or "I'm [suddenly] sick," so I got fed up and gave up. Noe she complains that I never initiate, but I am kinda past that point of initiating. In fact, the thought of me making a first move turns me off. You need to investigate what works for both of you, and to be fair.
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reader, Daveeeeeee  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 Each to their own ..Id be ripping your clothes off , bet he takes it slower , just be gentle with him , make a small move , Its just how this guy is ..
There is NO black / white answer , just make a pass .
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 March 2010):
A lot of men assume that a woman wouldn't be interested if he suddenly made a move, as there are so many stories out there about women who say no, or turn over with a headache. What is forgotten is that there are more women who would like to have a guy initiate sex. So tell him what you want.
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