A
female
age
36-40,
*lapure4
writes:My friend has been dating this guy for almost a year, and hasn't asked her to be his girlfriend yet. During their romantic involvement, he's courted her on many dates (cruises, shopping sprees, lavish dinners, etc), which have been fully paid for on his behalf. And they've been sexually involved. She asked him in the first stages of their relationship, if he was going to ask her to be his girlfriend and he insisted that he never asked women out. They always ask him! My friend never accepted that until she willingly agreed to remain intimate without the "title" of boyfriend/girlfriend. Now, she fully accepts the terms of their relationship because he doesn't want to be committed. Is this a recipe for disaster or should she continue dating him until he's ready to ask her out? Please explain! Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 December 2010):
 They are together, but he's playing with his feet out the window. When the going gets tough, he won't be there.
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male
reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 They're already together... just cos a relationship doesn't have a title, doesn't mean its doomed to fail.
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reader, Abella +, writes (4 December 2010):
 What a player this man is. He must appear too good to be true as he pays for all, no strings attached. And he must feel like a James Bond or a modern day Hugh Hefner equivalent. That's because he wants no strings, no commitment, no ties. He can walk away when he tires of her (read: if she becomes too demanding, or wants permanent commitment).
But there are strings.
The reality is the girl is required to never get too close. But be attractive, available, amenable, co-operative, willing and compliant for as long as he wants to use the girl for his pleasure.
He uses his money to lavish attention and pleasure, but he does not allow the 'girl friend' tag and without any permanent plans for the future.
It sounds like she has no guarantee for
any more in the future.
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