A
male
age
30-35,
*ela08
writes:I'm crushing on a graduate student...who also happens to be my TA. She's almost 4 years older than me (I'm 20), and is very beautiful in and out. She knows me by name and all and we tend to have a lot of one-on-one discussions, so we already have a minor friendship going on. She'd often tell me that I'm the only student who puts in the most effort in her discussion course. Since she has some control over my grade, I don't want to risk it by asking her out now while I'm still enrolled, but I don't even want to jump into the dating scene yet. She may be single, since she brings up her personal life in class on occasion and has never mentioned anyone she's dating, so I really want to get to know this woman better.She has a facebook, and I tried to add her, but I had second thoughts after that and canceled the request, then last week I sent her an email (through the school website, of course) just saying that I hope she has a good break and to have fun, that's it. But I felt like I was coming on a bit too strong, do you? I'm just trying to maintain awareness of my boundaries as a studentI'm not exactly a funny guy, but I do know how a woman is to be treated, and as I said, I don't want to jump into the dating scene yet, but rather get to know her some more. How do I go about doing this? We take our final on the 15th, but she plans on going back home for winter break the day after, so how do I approach this woman, and should I do it right before our finals or sometime during the next semester?*I read the University policies. TA/student relationships are forbidden while the student is enrolled in the cousre; there's no penalty for both parties if a relationship exists so long as a student is not enrolled in the same course as the TA.*
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
 Does she happen to be from Brazil?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Well you know yourself that you cant have a relationship with her while you are enrolled in the course. However there is no harm getting to know her more. Keep things cool, just talk to her when you see her and try and get to know her more as a person, but dont ask her out or come on to her in anyway. Sending her that email was not coming on to strong so dont worry. As soon as you are finished with your course and you are still interested in her then ask her out on a date. Goodluck.
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