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writes:My girlfriend and I are both 19 and have been dating for 2 years. We both just completed our first semester of college. The problem is, we made a decision to go to separate colleges back when our relationship was still new. But we know now that we love each other. We are both very mature for our age and have discussed marriage and children.But the problem remains, we go to separate colleges and the separation drove us crazy last semester. We cannot see each other at all at any point in the semester. I can't imagine living another 7 semesters away from her. We are currently attempting to transfer colleges so we can be together. However, the transfer will put us (combined) around 50K in debt after undergrad. If we do not transfer and stay separated, we will be (combined) 20K in debt.We really want to be together and I love her. I know that staying separated will not destroy our relationship. But I still want to be with her and do not want to go through another 3 years of separation. We have explored every financial option possible but loans are the only way to cover our lost scholarships. Please give me your opinion and advice.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 January 2011):
 The thing is, whenever people move to be closer to a loved one, all that stress of moving, meeting new people, learning a new area, etc builds up and you will end up resenting the lover you did all this for. Many relationships survive that, but many do not. Add in the significant financial stress you'd be placing yourselves under and things will be a bit awkward. Maybe it will help you two to fall deeper in love and decades of marriage later, you'll both agree it was worth it. Maybe after a semester of stress and misplaced frustration, you'll break up but still have the debt. I cannot read the future for you, but please be careful about life altering decisions, no matter how deeply you love one aother.
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