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writes:My wife and I split up a few years ago. We are still friends, there is no relationship. Recently after her mom passed away, I went to her mom's house to help ready the house for sale. Her brother and his wife showed up to help. The brother's wife told me how her marriage was falling apart and said she want's me. I told her I find her very sexually attractive and that I had fantasized about sex with her when I was having sex with my wife. She came over to me and put my hand on her breasts and said ^^ck me. We made a sex date and had a great time. We met a few more times, the sex was great, better than I ever had experienced. We seemed to hit it off better than either of us expected thinking it was just sex. She want's to leave her husband and start a relationship with me. I'd love to, she's beautiful and compatible. Their marriage has been falling apart for years from his drinking,unemployment and constant abuse. He recently became very ill and his outlook is not good. I told her we should not jump into anything, to wait and see what's happening to her husband. She's already had enough of his past lies and cheating, it must run in the family, my wife was a serial liar and cheater as well. I know it's weird getting involved with an in law but after all the abuse this woman and I have suffered with this family of control freaks liar cheaters, why should I care what that family thinks. We have found a good thing we'd both like to go with it. I'm not saying I'm in love with her but I love spending time with her, it's more than the sex for me and her. This is not an attempt to get back at that family, it's about the attraction we both had pent up for years that's finally coming out after our marriages failed. My buddy tell's me I should run away from her, I think he's actually jealous , but in this situation, should I really care what anyone other that this woman and I want?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 Unless I missed something – I apologise; you omitted to mention any children… One can only surmise a person’s underlying character in this situation; one that dis/regards what their children will suffer from this sordid affair!? Which one are you?Either way; this situation is not worthy of being jealous over!1. Your buddy has it in perspective; you should run away ‘from her’!2. There’s nothing wrong with having pent-up fantasies; just not with other people’s wives etc.!3. “…should you really care what anyone other that this woman and you want?” If there are children involved; in the words of Stone Cold Steve Austin - HELL Yeah!Take CareCAA
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2013):
 do you have children with your ex wife?
do you really want your kids to have to explain that their aunt is also their stepmom?
do you get that your current partner is a liar and a cheater like her sister? if she can cheat on her husband (regardless of how evil or drunk or bad he is, he's still legally her spouse and she has a responsibility to uphold her marital vows) then she can cheat on you later on (much like her sister did)
so if we get past those things... and you are still ok with going for this relationship, then I think quite honestly you and the current sister owe the first sister the dignity and respect of asking her how she's going to feel about it....
you may very well only care about yourself.... but it will probably destroy any civility you and your ex have... it will possibly destroy the bonds of sisterhood...
if you are willing to be the ONLY family support this woman might have... if you are willing to live in a town with her where people will talk... then yes go for it.
If you really want to do this... nothing will stop you but go to your ex and talk to her first at least give her a private heads up so the first time she has to deal with you two in public she's prepared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): You say your wife was a cheat and liar and yet when you were with your wife you fantasised about your sister inlaw, bit teapot and kettle calling each other out, don't you think ? I think this is all wrong and if you do want more than just sex.. You would let her sort out her marriage either end it and then think about a relationship with yourself. .. But however I think this will land on deaf ears .However take care and keep us posted
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reader, CMMP +, writes (22 February 2013):
First things first: this may be a sort of rebound thing for both of you, so I'd take things slowly.
Second, I don't see a big problem here. Her husband is a jerk and she needs to leave him; if you make that easier for her so be it. You may want to consider what kind of reprocussions there may be if you guys burn your bridge with this family. Probably none but it's worth thinking about nonetheless.
It's kind of sad because it just goes to show how bad parents can completely ruin their children's (ex & bil) lives.
Good luck, I hope it works out great for the two of you.
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