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writes:I have a dear, dear friend whom I just love being with. We are much on the same wavelength. Problem is, she has gotten richer while I've gotten poorer. I don't want money to come between us. Recently i made the mistake of asking her for money, which I intended to pay back, but she just felt really awkward about the whole thing, and I'm worried about how it will affect our close friendship.Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCNKlives -- thank you for your help! the loan I asked for was for a definite necessity, but in the end, I borrowed the money from family. When I spoke to my friend, I kept your advice in mind, and it helped me to tell her about my resolution in a few words, and then go back to being friends... Thank you again!
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reader, CNKlives +, writes (17 September 2008):
Money is a touchy subject. Did you tell her you would pay it back and exactly why you needed to borrow the money? Was the money for something that you needed or wanted? Is it to feed yourself or to buy new shoes?? I wouldn't dare ask for money unless it is an absolute necessity. At this point I would probably just talk to her and tell her that you're sorry it made her uncomfortable..then go along like nothing ever happened. She doesn't have to loan you the money and you don't need to expect her to. I have girlfriends that I have loaned money but if they truly needed it. If my friend asked for money for something lavish I would probably feel awkward about it and also not want to let them borrow it.... my suggestion..talk to her, explain yourself and let it go..
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