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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend knows this girl. She was a client of his.. he's a personal trainer. She is not a client anymore because he moved gyms too far away from her. She used to text him ALL THE TIME. It was fine on his part as he always kept it professional. She bought him a little Xmas gift and everything last year which was ok. He used to say that she was always trying to please him. Anyway... they are friends on Facebook and apart from when he was training her they have had no contact on it. Since he stopped training her... he has had no contact with her but she is one girl that he sometimes looks up on Facebook every two to four weeks. He used to have the odd wank to a couple of girls on FB that he used to know that he found attractive because he says that porn gets boring!. He says that he doesn't look up these girls anymore when he told me because it hurt my feelings a bit.I think he is doing the same looking up this girl sometimes because she is attractive. There is no other communication between them though so should this worry me? I only think it because she's the only girl that he looks at and the last time he did he deleted his search.Obviously every 2 to 4 weeks is not much at all but I would like opinions. We share my computer is how I know by the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): Hi
He looks at faces of women he knows and imagines f@@king them, whilst knocking one out? Really?? How are you still with him? If I knew a boyfriend of mine had done this just once that would be it. It's emotional infidelity. He's looking, imagining and wanking! How do you not feel violated? I'm sorry if I sound aggressive, I'm just shocked!
Please rate yourself more, put some boundaries in place as to how you will be treated and kick him out, or leave or whatever, but realise he is not treating you properly and you really deserve better. Good luck x
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): 'Everyone fabtasises men especially'
Hahha I call bs on this one !
Women fabtasies waaaay more than men! This is one of those frustrating myths so often used.
Why do you think many of us don't need porn when men ao
Often do?
Biggest fallacy ever . To all men! Your woman IS fantasising and using her imagination daily about other men!
But he has crossed the line when it's someone he knows and has history with. Br smart and move on
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): Let's face it. Everybody fantasizes. Men especially.
I think this is normal and acceptable...
HOWEVER...
I think when it involves a real life person he knows, finds attractive and has history with, as in your BF's case, as opposed to an unattainable, fantasy person he has never met, this is a problem. Or it COULD be.
He has crossed a line in his mind.
And I think the potential for cheating is there when the right time and place comes about.
Definitely worrisome.
Sorry but it's how I see it.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): Well if you don't mind be totally disrespected then I wouldn't worry about it .
How would he feel if you were Masterbating over men you know ? Or is that something that is only acceptable for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): Your telling me you're actually attracted to this guy who wanks over pictures of girls he knows on facebook??? Get a new life , get a tablet of your own, or just get real. He is trying to wind you up and create feelings of negativity and jealousy in you. Find a picture of the most attractive guy you can and download it as a screen saver..or failing that tell him that you have heard he will enjoy the wanking so much more with a little bit of fresh red chilli rubbed on his hand. You can tell him reliably from me that it is an experience to die for...my eyes water at the thought!
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