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writes:My boyfriend started a website for dating. He was clueless on how to set it up. He said he wanted to do it to make extra money. He told me that he did a free profile on himself to see what the questions and fees were. He is not a paid member so he can't contact any women members. Should I worry that is contemplating cheating?
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reader, 48years  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 If it looks like a duck and talks like a duck, it's probably a duck.
There are better ways to make money, but there's no better way to find a new honey. So, question his motives. Tell him you're gonna be his first customer. See what he says when you offer to research other dating sites.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the feedback. im confused about what his intentions are. hopefully what he has said is true. i helped him when he said he wanted to start this website but i didn't think he would join. im gonna hope for the best and try not to be paranoid.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Hang on. There are two issues here: (1) he is designing a website for online dating, and (2) he is putting his profile - albeit as a free member - on a dating site.
Issue (1). To design a website, one does not need to put his own profile on an already running one. A website designer can "read" the algorithms from features on sites that are running already. He can be paid to design one, or he himself is designing one to make money later (he will get money from people paying memberships and from advertisement on his site). These things take time to take off. While the web-design may only take 2-4 months (at the most), he still needs to put money in on the web-hosting. Probably not much. But money coming in would also be not much and not quick. It may take 6 months to 2 years until you get money flowing in, depending on the traffic of the site itself.
Issue (2). If he is a website designer, there is no way he is clueless about setting up his profile on a dating site. Non paying members normally can be contacted by paying members, but cannot contact other non-paying nor paying members. When a paying member contacts a non-paying member, there are ways of making them know how to contact them outside the site (phone number, email address, etc). A number of these dating sites allow "guests" to browse their features freely, so actually, he does not need to post his profile on there. How is he making money from this? No can do, unless he himself offers to give services for a fee that is.
So, if he is serious about making extra money, I would like to think that he would ask your opinions on the website design itself. In other words, treating it as a "project" where both of you can sound off ideas on how to make the site interesting to potential clients.
So should you suspect any potential wrongdoing of your boyfriend? It depends on what answers you have come up with on issues (1) and (2) above.
Good luck!
Cat
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