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writes:I've been with the most wonderful guy for the past 4 months. He's intelligent, funny, affectionate, and romantic. He really cares about me and I care about him. He treats me like a princess and tells me that I am the sweetest woman he's ever been with.The problem? He is 13 years younger and that is the only problem for me. Am I worrying for nothing? Should I care if I'm that much older if we get along so well and he says he's perfectly happy with the age difference. In fact, he says it doesn't matter to him. Should I just relax and enjoy the life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2016): Identify the issues and find a balanced peaceful mindset so nothing is a shock. Then hey start enjoying it and as others have said relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2016): My BF is 15 years older than me.
I am quite the free spirit. He is more practical. We get along well. Get each other's sense of humour. Have fun together. But sometimes he tries to ground me with his practicality knowing full well I cannot be grounded! So I think sometimes I might be too immature for him. But for a guy his age, he can be immature too!
Sexually we are very compatible although I am raring to go much more often than he is! lol
But it works.
Just cannot explain it.
I am happy. So is he.
I cannot help but think he kind of likes having young arm candy too. lol
The moral of the story is: If it works, it works. No need to explain it. Just go with it. Not everybody is so lucky. Enjoy. ;)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (13 May 2016):
 My husband is only 6 years older to me and there are times when I feel it's a whole generation apart!I guess more than the age thing it's the fact that we come from very different backgrounds and that's what makes a huge difference. I'm from a very liberated, outgoing family while his parents are super-conservative and his upbringing has been, for the lack of a better word, boring.
He treats me like his baby but it sure is annoying when I want to dress up and go out for dinner and he wants to sit at home and have home-cooked food and just laze with me. Then there are times when I just want to watch some mindless TV and he's watching the Discovery channel or a documentary on some tribe in Africa. Or when I'm taking excitedly about something random that happened in the day and he just smiles and calls me his little madcap. What I'm trying to say is, there are many things that make us a generation apart but still it works because it just fits... You know what I mean? I would never ever choose to be with anyone else and even though there are some things about him that I find so aggravating... Like his love for watching the BBC all day long when he's home (!)and I'm sure many quirks of mine that he finds annoying, it works out just fine.
What I'm trying to say is, keep in mind that 13 years apart is a long gap. Also, keep your backgrounds in mind. That makes a lot of difference. Similar backgrounds make for easier adjustments.
There would be many times when you feel irritated with him for not having your level of maturity and when he'll feel that you're too old to relate to him. However, if you love each other and are willing to make it work then just go for it. Just clarify where he stands on starting a family because that might be an issue late on. Otherwise I see no reason to worry :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 May 2016):
 Yes relax and enjoy life. Live in the moment and enjoy being happy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 May 2016):
 My S.O. - who is almost 10 years older than I am - told me to tell you to relax........
Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 May 2016):
 my husband is 13 years younger than I am.
we have different taste in music and tv but other than that we are fine together.
don't rush into anything...
my husband did not want children so it was fine for us (I was already the mother of grown children) so that may be the only issue for you guys long term.
but at 4 months just sit back and enjoy it. do not worry about what will be years down the road.
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