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writes:BackgroundMale acquaintance who is married, And attracted to. I've known him about 18 months. Started off flirting and teasing me. Didn't know he was married to begin with, but when I found out, stopped the flirting, just acted friendly. Couldn't avoid him due to our paths crossing on a regular basis. He still continued to flirt with me, touching me, eye contact winking. Always mentioned if he'd seen me, or if he hadn't. Thankfully we don't work together.Now talking to him the other day, just chit chat, he found out there were some management vacancies where I work. Now he has got it into his head that he wants to apply. Thought he was joking but no, he's deadly serious. And it's completely different to the job(s) he's done in the past.Should I be worried (his flirting etc has seemed to got more intense in the last few months)?What should I do?Any advice welcomed.
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reader, Treacle +, writes (22 May 2006):
Treacle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for youe replies. I know i may be worrying prematurely. The interviews haven't started yet.
I'll take aboard your advice and try to limit contact as much as possible.
The only thing that concerned me is its completely different type of work that he's been doing so far and has been in this job over 10 years just seems a sudden change.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 May 2006):
 Well. I would never suggest looking for another job. He's the one who has to control his actions. Yo're the one who has to put him on that path. You like the attention too. That doesn't make you bad but sometimes flattery allows us to walk in the gray area a little more than we might usually do. CONTROL is the key here. If he can't put the brakes on, YOU have to.
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reader, matron +, writes (21 May 2006):
 Hi, continue to be freindly but dont encourage contact, ask about his wife in a casual way ie have they got a family etc. If he continues to flirt or asks you out treat it as a joke and laugh it off but make it quite clear you only date single men. He sounds like he loves to flirt and the attention it brings, you'll soon find out what kind of man he is if he starts working at your firm, on the other hand he may just be a really friendly person that comes across as flirty, either way DONT go there darl. Good luck LoLx
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reader, shania +, writes (21 May 2006):
 If he does take the job,the ball is really in your court.Sexual attraction is a very powerful thing and clouds all judgement.This man is obviously pursuing you,and because you appear interested in him you haven't taken the bait so therefore he finds you a challenge and he is loving the chase.You know he is married and you admit that your attracted to him but he belongs to someone else.This man wants to bed you,thats obvious...but once he has done this,he has got what he wanted and then run back home to his wife....Really its up to you to being strong and not giving in to temptation...If you find you cant stop this situation getting out of hand,you either look for another job or tell him straight that you are not interested or you give in and end up with heartache...further down the road.
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