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writes:Dear CupidsMy current boyfriend is opening up a business that will be making some hair cosmetics products. My ex boyfriend works for an ad agency so a Chinese client that gave them a hair product making machine for free (as a gift) as a donation rather.I am in this dilema because my current boyfriend is desperately needing those machines as the ex boyfriend told me he can give us for free.... My worry then is just my reputation as I do not like combining the men I have dated.....Another problem is that my ex-boyfriend is still into me.... we were talking about getting back together. He has been chasing me since we broke up two years ago and I must be honest I do consider a relationship with him, in the long run....What makes me to consider the relationship with him though is that my current boyfriend of 8 months has cheated on me twice already with different women and he was not remorseful about it.... to cut the story short I found out when I was snooping in his phone and confronted him.... he got very defensive, but never apologetic until recently we are trying to patch things up.... He is aware of the machine from my ex boyfriend, but I am very reluctant to arrange for my ex to give him the machines....Is that a selfish thing to do because he now keeps pushing me to talk to my ex and I do not think it is a good idea as, I would not want to do such a thing to my ex (my ex is a very fragile person and my current boyfriend is vulnerable because he is starting out a business and any form of assistance would boost him.... and that machine will be such a fortune for him.... what would you do in such a situation?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (9 January 2008):
I see some indecision here and i see that you don't wana temot yourself with your ex.What reason are you gonna give your current boyfriend for not asking for the machine? How much do you care about him? In such situations it's best to put your feelings aside and assist the one you are with but if you feel it will only push you into your ex's arms,DON'T.There's nothing wrong with you helping him out but there's everything wrong with you using it as an excuse for getting back with your ex.Are you that weak?Or is it that you keep comparing your current to your ex and end up fantasising about your ex?Get a grip on yourself.Unless you are punishing your boyfriend for cheating on you.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Dont bother getting into contact with your ex for your current boyfriend. He cheated on you....dont do him any favours!!!
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 your current boyfriend is not vulnerable. you gotto know what you want first. sounds like youre afraid to talk to your ex because of you might get back together. you have plenty of good reasons to do so. none of that matters if you DONT want your ex back. The WANT is what matters, not NEED. If all you want is to help your current bf out, then do so and move on. And if you would like your ex to help and nothing else then you have to make that clear. And dont string him along because thats cruel.
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