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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for the past 3 months. We're both in our late twenties, he was very into me initially and then we agreed to be exclusive to each other after we started becoming intimate. We've had a lot of problems as I had caught him twice sending flirty/sexual sms to other women. He asked me to forgive him and I did since we were just in the beginning of our relationship. Now I've been abroad for the last 6 days (visiting my family) and i've only received one sms from him (to which I replied). I didnt bother sending him anything as I want to see if he really misses me since I think I'm putting more effort into the relationship. I've tried chatting twice with him on skype this week but he responded 'sorry i hope ure well, i'm busy at work , chat soon'. He's now on holiday with his friends (boys and girls) for a few days so I'm sure that chatting with him (skype) is out of the question.Before I left, we had a little talk where I asked him how he feels about me and he told me that he likes spending time with me and enjoys my company but is not "100% committed" to me as he's not sure what he wants.I now feel very angry at his behaviour. I've been away for a week and he hasn't bothered to text to see how i'm doing. I feel that he doesn't really care and that he's having fun with his friends while I'm here missing him and thinking about him. I know I should break up with him but part of me is in love with the guy. I met this guy after moving to a new country (4 months ago) and I hardly know any people to hang out with except him. Shall I write him a goodbye letter and never speak to him again? Take it easy and see how it goes with him (maybe that will bring him to his senses like my best friend suggested)? or what? I'm lost!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Duplicate: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-says-he-not-100-committed-to-me.html
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Walk away. This started on the wrong foot. Just 3 months,
you should still be all starry-eyed about each other- and instead ,as you say, you already had problems and caught him twice sending sexual messages to other women.
Besides, you are not on the same page, he told you : he likes spending time with you, but, for the moment, no more than that. I think you already would want much more involvement from him.
Skip the goodbye letter- too dramatic. And don't be angry, it's nobody's fault. You two just want different things at this point of your lifes.
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