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writes:Hey guys well kinda obviously got a relationship prob so ya heres it... So me(17) and my bf(18)dated last summer for about 3 months but sadly had some issues with my mom and decided to end it cuz there was no way of getting her to like him thanks to many "stupid teenage mistakes". We stayed ok friends for a while dated other people and all that good stuff but realized we really have ALOT of feelings for each other and have been dating for about a month and a half now. We already had made plans bout our future like im going to stay in school and am going to become a general surgeon or P.T and he is really into comps so he wanted to go to college for that. Yet about 2 weeks ago he found out he was going to be deported with the army in October. (flash back b4 we started talking again he kinda felt as if he had nothing here for him but the army until i told him i still had feelings for him to and ya kinda doesnt want to go.) Hes going to be gone 4 8yrs and two weeks... and I honestly dont know what to do I mean ya theres tape recorders, letters, etc but 8 yrs?.. so yea heres my question should i wait or juss let him go and when he gets back try it again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): well for one think about it at his point of view at the same time, this is a once in a life time opportunity, would he give it up just to be with a girl? I don't mean to sound mean but if you're not willing to wait then you must not really love him that much, just let him go and move on. You cant wait for him, what if you have a husband and kids by the time he comes back you're gonna leave them just to be with this guy...just think twice before you make your decision, only you no what's best these are only peoples opinions
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reader, October +, writes (25 June 2009):
October is verified as being by the original poster of the question heres an update so me and him talked about it and ya.. he kinda i guess thought i didnt so much care for him started saying he was single or at least his website did.. and i asked him why he put it he said he "thought" we were going to when we discussed we would try and work it out. yea he broke up with me last night saying i lied and dont care of him or love him? started going back out with his ex like right in the middle of us bout to break up? so much for him loving me back right? well hope it goes well for him i guess even though his ass is going to be a booty call pretty much.. As for me ill be ok i have amazing loved ones that got my back plus theres other fish in the sea and im sure ill find someone "good for me" as they say ;p any way thanks for the addvices so very few but better than nothing eh?
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reader, October +, writes (25 June 2009):
October is verified as being by the original poster of the questionheres an update so me and him talked about it and ya.. he kinda i guess thought i didnt so much care for him started saying he was single or at least his website did.. and i asked him why he put it he said he "thought" we were going to when we discussed we would try and work it out. yea he broke up with me last night saying i lied and dont care of him or love him? started going back out with his ex like right in the middle of us bout to break up? so much for him loving me back right? well hope it goes well for him i guess even though his ass is going to be a booty call pretty much.. As for me ill be ok i have amazing loved ones that got my back plus theres other fish in the sea and im sure ill find someone "good for me" as they say ;p any way thanks for the addvices so very few but better than nothing eh?
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reader, October +, writes (22 June 2009):
October is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anonymous like the first addvice i agree but sadly im still a teen and to me saying lets go our seprate ways is the end of the world to me...... grr haha sucks man
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I think you should let him go. 8 yrs long distance? Not very realistic and if you are going to be a dr. then you are looking at 8 yrs of college and a 2 yr residency. Like most people, you don't really find the person you spend the rest of your life with until your late twenties so both of you are on separate paths in life.
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reader, iloveyhoo  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 well if you wait then it will be really hard. i mean someone else is going to probably walk into your life then you will have to block them out and thats going to be hard. personally i think you should just move on but keep in touch with him and stay mates,you never know what might happen in the future. moving on will be easier but don't exactly forget about him ! good luck x
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