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*aur2000
writes:I am having problems with my bf sexually and its really getting us down. At the beginning of our relationship he managed to make me cum on a couple of occasions which was really good and he seemed really proud of himself. Then had exams and stuff so i didnt see him for a bit. Now he can make me horny but he can't make me come. Its really affecting his confidence because i can make him come but he cant make me. i have told him that it doesnt bother me but its really eating at him. It seemed to bother him so much i fibbed a bit telling him he managed it, but he found out i fibbed and its made him feel even worse. I have tried reassuring him but it doesnt seem to work he still seems really depressed about it and says that he's a crap bf. wot shud i do?Help what can i do? xxx
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reader, laur2000 +, writes (21 June 2009):
laur2000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI only fibbed to save his feelings because he was getting really down and depressed not to be mean. He thought i had cum when i hadent i just didnt correct his because he looked so happy when he thought i had i didnt have the heart to tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): First off relax, and tell him to relax too...placing additional stress on you or your boyfriend to perform will just result in additional performance anxiety. In turn this will not allow both of you to perform how you wish.
The next time you need to slow down and take your time. Explain to him what feels good, what you like and when you like it.
Do not fake, i personally could never trust someone who would fake an orgasm. Lieing is not a healthy habit in relationships. Everyone hits a rut, but it will take both of you to work through this and become compatable again.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Just fake it until he has confidence again and then focus on comming, eventually it will straighten itslef out. X
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