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writes:If you fell in love with a player geniunely and he gave up all of his chicks to be with you and you have been dating for almost 2 years and you told a lie about someone you said you had a phone conversation with and all you really did was text that person do you think that by ending the relationship was a cop out to go back to his player ways? I need to know if I should give him his space and wait it out because I genuinely love him and I know in my heart the feeling is mutual or just moving on...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 I think you have to assume he's moved on as he hasn't replied to your texts. Don't wait around driving yourself crazy over this. You can never know what he's thinking or doing and he sure isn't going to tell you. I know darling how hard it is to move on but for your own sake and sanity, it's best if you do. A few weeks down the line, you won't care.
Hugs
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell this happened last Sat & I txd him frm Sun-Wed thn I completly stopped I haven't called him because I know I made a mistake & he never replied to any of the texts or he hasn't called & its killing me to call him so do you think if its geniue he would call after he's calmed down or should I just move on?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (10 October 2009):
If he has cheated so prolifically most of his adult life, he is most likely never going to change. A lot of men (and women) have one main person in their life but choose to always seek attention and affairs from others. To them it is an acceptable way to behave and they find it hard to stop. They know that one special person will most likely never leave them so they have the security of a monogamous relationship and the excitement of an open relationship too....which is bloody fantastic for them!!!!
For you...well it depends how much you can stand and what, personally you are getting from the relationship. If it's enough to satisfy you and you are happy then maybe it could work, but if it's making you unhappy you need to move on.
We can never change other people, only ourselves. If your own attitude changes then he may adjust his to fit in with you...or he may not.
Trust is the fundemental building block on which all true and loving relationships and friendships are built. If you don't have complete trust, then the walls are always going to shake!!
I hope you find some peace.
with love
Aunty Em xxx
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