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writes:This might be kind of long, just a warning. I work with this guy and we've been decent friends for over a year. His ex girlfriend who is also the mother of his kids works at the same place as us but on a different shift. He would always talk to me about their relationship problems while they were still together. Back in July we got extremely flirtatious. They were still together because she was pregnant and it was a possibility the baby was his. We made some comments about being together and he told me I would have to wait. So I did but after a month or so I gave up waiting and decided to move on. A few weeks ago he randomly came up to me and asked if I'd be willing to go on a date with him once he got all his stuff in order. I told him he would have to be broken up with his now ex. He told me she had moved out of his place a little over a month and a half ago. I'm still waiting for the date. I need advice on if I should keep waiting or not. I really like him but I know this whole situation will be really hard. And I'm not really sure he really likes me. I feel like if he did then I wouldn't be waiting. I honestly don't know and just need the opinions of people who aren't my closest circle of friends. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): I wouldn't wait for him, to be honest. It might sound harsh, but his personal life is just too complicated. And I don't think it's a good sign at all that he's willing to let you hang on indefinitely. You can't live like that! Plus, you work together. If you do eventually start a relationship and it turns sour, you'll be stuck seeing him every day... not to mention his ex works at the same establishment. Awkward.
It sounds like he's happy to know he has a girl hanging around somewhere waiting for him if all else fails. Don't buy into it. It's fine to keep him as a friend, but for your sake I wouldn't try to encourange more than that. Good luck and take care x
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (27 December 2011):
 Well i think it is good that he wants the get his house on order as such. But if he has just had a baby with his ex even if you do wait a while you are going to be walking into what is likely to be a very difficult situation.You need to ask how long he thinks you will have to wait and when he tells you then you can decide if you are willing to wait that long.
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