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writes:When i was a kid. My cousin and i would do things like kiss each other and call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. This stopped 7 or 8 years ago and we havent spoke of it since. I still have feelings for her, and i still dont know how to tell her.(i wrote a question asking how to previous to this one). I really need to know if she still feels the same way i do. Does anyone know how i could tell her how i feel? We only talk on facebook and we arent that close anymore. So i guess i dont trust the technique of telling her upfront and hoping she doesnt freak... Can anyone shed some light on the situation??? Maybe some advice on how i could some how casually bring it up in conversation? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): Things are very different when you're a kid. I daresay most of us expressed affection as children towards other young family members in a way which would be considered inapporopriate after puberty. When you're younger you don't have *real* romantic feelings for others (although there's no denying that human beings do have some concept of sexuality from the beginning).I wouldn't pursure this. Really. It's likely to cause all sorts of awkward feeling, especially since you mention the two of you aren't even particularly close anymore. It's not exactly the sort of thing you can "casually bring [it] up in conversation" either! As the anon reader suggested, get involved in other things and find a girlfriend who isn't a family member. In time, whatever feelings you have for your cousin will fade. You'll still care about her of course, but your love for her will be familial, platonic. And that's the way it should be. Good luck and take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): Your playing with fire. How closely are you two related? If she is your Uncle/Aunt's (parents siblings) child, it may be illegal where you are to be in a relationship with her, if she even felt the same. Apart from that, she is still family, have you really thought this through? If you let her know how yur feel, it could get around your family and tear it apart, are you prepared to do that. My thoughts are that you should forget this and find a girl who is not related to you. Kids do silly things, and it's an innocent child thing, which I think this situation you were in was just that, kids being silly together. While it may have been cute then, now it would seem gross and freaky. I doubt you want that.
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