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writes:Hello all. For starters I just got out of a 2 year relationship 3 months ago and not to be tooting my own horn but there are a lot of guys out there trying to talk to me. Im not exactly looking for a relationship but if one seems to happen then so be it. Last week I was walking out of a bar to go home because I had to work the next day. Rather early, but on my way out i was stopped by and extremely attractive man. Wanting to strike up a conversation but as I had to work the following day really early I was kinda eager to leave. He asked if he could walk me to my car. I turned him down because I didnt know him and just to be on the safe side. He said give him 10 minutes so we talked found out he was in the military and a good ol country boy. just my type :) he asked for my number when we got to my car and I caved and gave it to him. He asked to hang out (not a date) the following thursday. i accepted and when thurs came around I had to ditch him because a long time friend came into town. I explained this all to him and he jokingly flaunted to me that i ditched him. I did fill bad but shes never in town and it was a one night thing. Anyways told me I could make it up to him the following night. Me feeling bad for standing him up I went out. Not really knowing much at all about him I was not planning on staying late or didnt think i would have fun. But who would have thought I had an absolute blast. I was scared at first because I didnt have anyone I knew around me just him . I met him at a local bar for some drinks and we walked to 2 other bars just talking and enjoying our company. He used to be a bartender so apparently he was introducing me to all of his bouncer buddies at these bars (which happened to be working) and I was informed by him that it seems all of his friends approved of me. Which is a good feeling... as the night went on got later and later it was time to go home. As he walked me to my car he informed me that he would be leaving in 2 days for Kuwait for a month with the military. This confused me so I asked why would he try to hang out with someone when he is just going to leave shortly after. Long story short.. he asked me very politely not to have a boyfriend before he comes back. That he would be really disappointed. Im not sure if he is able to communicate over there or how to communicate but he told me we could talk. I havent heard from him and its been a week.. is it worth waiting? I dont know if theres any guys reading this but would you say that to a girl and then leave her hanging?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): Sry I forgot to mention he does something with the artillery. so he travels for places sometimes for 1-2 months at a time to teach the soldiers all about and how to shoot new weapons. But i reaaally appreciate the advise and will take it in mind!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 I'm in complete agreement with Pinktopaz on this one.
He had no business asking you not to date or "have a boyfriend" while he was in Kuwait. I mean,come on, who does he think he is? He's got some nerve based on one date with you!
You don't really know anything about this man - and one month in Kuwait - well, could be legit but again, I'm with pinktopaz.
If you do see him when he comes back, I hope you proceed with caution and don't rush into anything with him........
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 August 2012):
Umm NO! Kuwait for only a month? I highly doubt he's only going to be a gone a month--then again I don't know all the details with military and maybe you misunderstood, but I think usually they're gone a minimum of 6-months? He was leaving 2-days later but you haven't heard from him in a week? He obviously had time to call you.
Don't wait around for him at all. I'm not saying ALL but a lot of military guys cheat (and are cheated on too) so don't take what he said that seriously. I appreciate what they do for our country, but their social/personal lives are nothing to really want to be a part of. But then again I and a lot of others I know have had bad experiences but I'm sure there's some out there that have had good experiences.
Sounds like you have options, so definitely don't wait around for this one. If he's still interested in the supposed month-long absence, he'll contact you. A month isn't that long.
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