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writes:what can i do he is 12 and im 15 i really like him and he likes me too he is friends with my ex and me and my ex broke up 1 month ago but i have liked him for about 4 months but the age is what is killing me and i dont know if i should wait about 6 months to a year to see if i still like him and so i dont look like a slut who went out with one and then rigth after another one should i wait a little until he grows more and for thing to calm down with my ex or just go straigth to it
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reader, HopelessRomantic2010 +, writes (19 December 2008):
Hii...I'm newly seventeen, and my boyfriend is almost fourteen. Did I stress about getting with him? YOU BET I DID. I was so worried about what everybody else would think that I forgot about what I thought and what he thought. I let all of the negatives block out all of the positives--how much fun we had together, how much we liked each other, that sort of thing. Finally, I was just like, "You know what? Screw what everybody else thinks! I like this guy, this guy likes me, and we're going to date!" People were shocked at first, but now, it's just something that is accepted. They know how happy we make each other, and that makes them happy as well. Is it always easy? No, I can't say that it is. I have actually had someone call me a child molester (which I am technically not, because it's not like we're having sex). As long as you don't do it with him, you'll be fine. But when it all comes down to it, just follow your heart...because nobody can tell you what's better for you than you can.Good luck, and God bless,~Sarah~
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): I assume that you are worrying about what others would say becoz you explained in ur second post that he is quite mature. Dont care about others... some may call you names but dont care about them. I believe an age difference of 4 years is legally allowed when both persons are underage. I dont know about how it would be viewed after u hit 18 and he hit 15. But still dating without sex wont be illegal I guess. But dont worry about others... I have been called names for mere chatting with teens. People are weird and inconsistent in their ideas. So you cant please everyone.
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reader, sandra78 +, writes (16 December 2008):
Wow.. It seems like a lot of issues for such a young girl. Im sure you already know that statisticaly males mature at a much slower rate than females. I highly doubt he is mentaly or pysicaly mature enough to even compare to someone your age. I think you should give it a few years.. Your young, you have plenty of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Anonymous you talking to me? Did you read the end of my first post?
I went out with younger guys partly by chance - my boyfriends before that were my own age (except at the time I was also 14). I went for the younger ones because I thought older guys weren't interested... but then I realised they were. The first younger guy had two other people at the same time as me and the second left me because I wouldn't sleep with him, so to be fair, I was probably preventing them from going as far as they otherwise would have. But like I said, my current boyfriend is in my year and I couldn't really be happier.
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reader, MM1193 +, writes (16 December 2008):
MM1193 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is very mature and serious he is one of those guy thatu find one in a million he is everything i have ever wanted in a guy serious respectful caring funny attratctive tall amazing and make me happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Sorry but I find this very strange, why are you intrested in 12-14 year old boys? If your 17, nearly 18. I really think you should take a hard look at yourself and work out why your going after school boys and not boys at college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Just to clarify I never slept with either of those... with the younger one we never got passed kissing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): 12 years old? Sorry but hes just a kid, and probably not very able to handle proper relationship. 3 years is a big difference, especially seeing as boys mature quite a bit slower than girls at this age.
I'd definately give a year or so; wait until hes a bit older and more mature, or find a guy nearer to your own age
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): I have dated 12-14 year olds when I was 16/17 and they were too immature for me, it really didn't work out... I'm now with a 16 year old and right now I'm happy as a sandboy =]
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