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writes:Ok.. Its been almost 3 weeks and my boyfriend told me he doesn't want to be with me. He dont know what he wants. We have one 2 1/2 old son and i'm 7 months pregnant with our 2nd. He pretty much kicked us to the curb. He has found someone else. Whom I know well. Our parents were friends. Are friends.. She has her own house, and a good job. Where I go to school online full time and Just now moved into my own apt with my child. I have not filed for child support. I moved into my apt on dec8th. He helped me move. He was talking dirty, grabbing me in spots and rubbing on me. The very next day... He called at 1130 pm and came here till 1230 we fooled around didn't have sex but very close... made out and kissed and stuff like that. He calls me all the time.. ITs almost like he can't go 24 hrs without calling me.. This past sunday he came to visit our son, and then again he pulled me over to cuddle and we cuddled.. And then fooled around again.. He said hed come back one night this week to have sex. I told him i would wait for him. Thats because we have been together for 6 yrs. We broke up inthe summer of 07. got back together around thankxgiving. He left in dec 30 07 but came back jan 14th 08 till just 3 weeks ago. We lived together and have a family dog adn fish.. What is going on. Please help.. I just need some advice. He calls me all the time for the stupidest things.
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (27 December 2008):
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last sunday we had a big fight, then he called around 4 and told me no matter what, i will still love you and care for you, and still come play around with you. I'm not happy with her. I just dont want to look like the bad guy. blahblah
Well, he still calls me everyday, sometimes in morning sometimes evening. He came over last monday and we had sex. he at 7 30am on 8am, 815am on monday 7pm tuesday, at 230pm1030pm 11pm and wednesay at 11am 12pm 130pm he came over at 8 on xmas called me at 830pm on friday he called me at 9am 430pm 530pm.
some girls started some crap, they called his so called gf and told her that hes not faithful with her and has been at myhouse and is cheating on him. She didn't have much to say. i haven't heard from him yet today but he did have xmas with our son and his parents today. so maybe thats why. What is going on. this is so weird do you think she will relize what hes doing? do you think she will come to her senses and realize hes not worth it to her if shes hearing this stuff from different people about his past and that hes cheating on her right now? help
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (20 December 2008):
ajcashattuck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell..
he hasn't called me since thursday night, i called him friday i was having contractions and he had called me back like 2hrs lataer, he was at work.. then something went on last night so i called him and let him know he called me back like around 1030pm i called him at 930 pm. now its saturday around 1pm central and he hasn't called me at all. im crying i dont know what to do. i miss him terrible. i all think about is when is he going to call. the roads are nasty here we are in a winter storm warning, i was supposed to go to my moms for christmas but didnt go due to the roads. i need help... when i talked to him last night arund 4 he said he was going to take a shower and go to bed he was tired. thats what he said the night before. now his roomate is sitting in jail for what happened lastnight... and hes very upset about the deal. but hasn't called me at all. im tore up. help i love him. lots and lots. how can i get him to come back to his famliy??? please help his lil boy is so lost the lil girl in my tummy knows when hes here or when he calls. everyone says give it time and hell be back just wait it wont be long but its been like 3 and half weeks. i can't take it.help
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (19 December 2008):
ajcashattuck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdatewell i think something is going on between him and that girl.. he calls me all the time, for nothing, always asking what i'm doing. He was depressed sounding last night.. around 5pm when he called me back, then he called me again around 730 to see what i was doing again, we talked for quite awhile. then he talked to our son. I do love him, i want to be with him and he knows that forsure. i keep telling him that. i also just think he is overwhelmed. from what i've heard or hes told me... he hasn't been hanging out with that girl. his truck is broke down so he cant really go anywhere, i left a picture of our son in his mailbox and he said thank and it was a good pic. he still calls me all the time.. its like he makes an attempt to call every morning by 10 for sure and everynight by 9pm. i wish he would just come back to us to his family. how else can i let him know i want him back? i told him about this pregnancy and everything and he seems to care about it alot than he did in the beginning. I just wish he could come by more often to visit us. Please help.. what else can i do. I have talked to my friends about it and they all say, hes overwhelmed, hell be back soon just give it time. he does have a house key of mine. so i mean he can come whenever. i miss him. please let me know what else i can do...
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reader, heartbreakingmom  +, writes (19 December 2008):
Guys always want what they can't have ! What about this other girl with the house? Did she kick him to the curb? Maybe with the 2 child comming he is feeling presser to be a man and take care of you three ? Listen I've been married 23 years and have three children and with each child it was a different faze he went through I say no relationship is perfect but you can't have a lasting one without communication something I learned the hard way sit him down be honest with him tell him how your feeling ask him what he is feeling. Maybe your both going through some issues if he left to be with that other girl may be he realizes it was a mistake and wants you back but ask your self honestly do you love him? Do you want to bring your kids up with man beside you ? I feel for you my heart goes out to you please take it easy with that little one in you the last thing you need is stress enjoy the blissing you have with your children I hope I helped
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (17 December 2008):
ajcashattuck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello all
Thanks for your replies. Today he called around 815am. wanted to come over but i was leaving to go to some ap. When i dropped our child off at a sitter he called me 8 times and left me 2 voicemails. What the heck is going on. I called him when i got home and told him i was home and then he said he was busy at this minute but he will call later. What the heck.. Help.. Does he still have feelings for me? Does he want me back? I would really like to be back withhim for the family too and i would like to have sex with him.. I know he would leave that girl or whatever she is to him now.. HElp..
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reader, angie_luvs_92 +, writes (17 December 2008):
 well it seems like he is in a confused stage right now, like you said, you have been together for 6yrs.. and have broken up and got back together before, he will most likey come back to khis senses and come back to you, they always do. and the thing about calling you all the time? seems like he still misses you, but then again he calls you just for sex, and you said you would wait for him? if you do things like that, he is goin to be in a mindset where he can mess around with other girls, but when they leave him, he knows your always going to be there him, sorta like rebounding. its just best to wait things out.
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (17 December 2008):
ajcashattuck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has called me 4 times today for no reason at all. I called to get him fuel at his house, he thought he seen me driving down the hwy andit wasn't me, called about a few other things. Its like he can't go a day without talking to me. Its almost as if he was checking up on me tosee if the boy was in bed or not.. The roads are dangerous around here tonight. Why does he call all the time for no reason??
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reader, ajcashattuck +, writes (16 December 2008):
ajcashattuck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you think we will be back together in the future.. He says he still loves me and cares for me. He wants to be there for the baby.. What do i do..
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reader, sandra78 +, writes (16 December 2008):
I can sympathize with your situation.. Not only are you in a very stressful situation, you are also very hormonal which is like a double whammy. Im sorry that you have to go through this, however I believe that if you keep allowing him to come and go as he pleases.. (No pun intended) he will. He has someone else and you are still allowing him to string you along. I must say also that it is very unhealthy for you and your baby.. Who knows what he may be bring home to you. I would say steer clear of him until he can figure out what he truly wants. Even though you may feel lonly now.. That will pass when you have a brand new bundle to keep you occupied. Good luck.
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