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writes: This guy and me have been seeing each other on and off for the past 2 years. Everytime it seemed like it was going good he would disappear and I wouldn't hear from him for days or weeks even and then he would finally call and we would be fine again. I am not confrontational so I always just let it slide and moved on confused. Well, we finally talked and I love him and he feels the same way about me except that he says he's not ready for the type of relationship he wants with me. I care about him so much and I dont know what I would do without him. It hurts just thinking about it. But I don't know if I should wait for him or am I suppose to date other people even though I know that he is the one I want to be with. I am so confused. What are your opinions? Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, M.O.M., writes (14 January 2005): Dear Boyfriend who goes M.I.A, This is clearly a guy who can't commit. You don't know what you would do without him because you don't give yourself the chance to find out. I think you need to work on yourself and getting yourself to a level where you feel good about who you are as a person. You are worth so much more than you are giving yourself credit. This guy has issues that will always be with him unless he engages in some counseling. It sounds like he may have some abandoment issues or had a parent that didn't commit. Family dynamics can really create problems for people that come out later in their own relationships. Dump him. He'll do it to you again unless he gets help.
A reader, mikey, writes (12 January 2005): I have a similar problem, my ex has depression and finished the relationship. Now free of depression she wants to marry me! I have a girlfriend at the moment and the two have hate history together. If I was you I would find somebody who knows what they want... i.e. YOU... You only get one shot at life use it wisely and find your true partner because that guy can't love you that much if he is confused. Hope everything goes well.
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