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writes:So I've been talking to this guy for a while now and we went on one date and three weeks later we hung out. I know he works a lot. He works 12 hour shifts at his one job at night and 12 hours at his volunteer job a night or two during the week.Well he said that we are going out this Saturday. I texted him Monday and he said he was busy and would text me soon. I have not heard from him since.Am I just being paranoid and should wait, or not?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 April 2012):
 The "busy" excuse only gets you so far. Even though he works 12 hour shifts, he still gets breaks, goes to the toilet, and lunch. So there's time right there to text you back.
In order not to sound desperate or eager, I would call and ask...
"Hey (insert name here) are we still on for Saturday night?? I've been invited out to (lie about event here, don't give details) and I need to get back to them."
You don't want to look like you've been waiting by your phone, or have nothing else to do. Act like you're just as busy as he is and your time is in demand. He needs to chase you a bit more than he has been.
Now, if he doesn't answer...don't leave a message. If he doesn't call back, then let the guy go. He's not that interested in forming a relationship with you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 I fell a little into this situation myself, hit it off well with a girl and asked her out, but she declined citing 'busy with work and college' as a reason. I just took it as a rejection, but one of my friends told me to hang in there.
I texted her everynow and again each few days to catch up and then last time I did, she didn't reply, so I decided to leave it as the conversations were becoming a lot more boring anyways.
But if you think it was going well, I'd just drop him another text to see how he is doing. If he doesn't reply to this one, or gives you the same answer, I'd call it a day.
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reader, Anongrace +, writes (6 April 2012):
It's friday today, if he hasn't texted you, it is likely he forgot to text back. You should text him to say hi and ask what's up. I mean texting him 4 days later does not seem desperate in my opinion.
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