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writes: Hello,Just looking for advice. Okay...so, I'm seventeen years old and a senior in high school. And I've developed some serious feelings for one of my very good guy friends, Jack. Problem is, he lives a bit far away at the moment, and the next time I can see him is in June. So, about 9 months from now. And when I do see him in the summer, I've decided that I'm going to tell him how I feel. The feelings are just too strong to ignore.Being the incredibly stubborn and stupid person that I am, I have chosen (against my friends' wishes) to ignore other guys this year. Wait, that sounds a bit wrong.Thing is, every year of high school I've had some silly "boy drama" to deal with, and since this is my last year, I'd rather not go through it all again. I want to stay focused on three things this year: my job, school, and my friends. I don't want a boyfriend right now. I have no time for one, and frankly (since I'm so stubborn), Jack is really my first choice. I want to see if things can go anywhere with him before I move on to someone else.My friends think that I'm being stupid for not being open to dating other guys right now. They want me to "live up" my last year of school. And that's just not what I want.I feel very happy and comfortable with this decision. By not dating other guys right now, I can really concentrate on applying to colleges, working, and spending my last months home with my friends. And that way, when summer rolls around, I will also be free to tell Jack how I feel.Am I being stupid? Should I be forgetting about Jack and dating other guys?
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reader, atl18ga  +, writes (24 October 2007):
i know how you feel and im in that same situation i met someone really special over the internet and we're so compatible that i'm already feelin like i'm"fallen" for him(in love i mean). now the issue is we live long distance and i planned to g visit him in December of this year. so my answer to you is be open-minded with the one you have feelings for and tell that person how you feel. i'm already taking my own advice and I can tell you this "he said "i love you!" just last night and i only knew him for a month and already we're claiming each other
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reader, harley_quinn +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Only you can decide what makes you happy. Don't listen to what other people say because they are not going thru the same feelings you are. Yes, you are young but who really needs boy drama. I wish I had my head on straight like you when I was your age. Boy drama is what caused me to drop out of high school and go to home school. I was 16 and got involved with a 22 year old. I was naive and he took advantage and I went thru horrible depression. I look back now and wish I would have just stayed in school and not got involved seriously with anyone and I could have already been graduated by now. As for your friend, Jack, go with your feelings and hope for the best but expect the worse. I only say this in case he does not feel the same way. School is important and you should finish while your young. In the end all we have is ourselves and you should take care of yourself and your future first. I hope this advice helps. Take Care.
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 September 2006):
 If you read what you posted you will see you already know your choice is what you really want and have pretty much answered your own question.
If you was just waiting for this Jack then I would say you have either got to say something to him (if you can contact him) or enjoy your life until you can but your reasons for staying away from other boys is not just for him it's to concentrate on your last year, your job, your friends and that you just don't have time for one right now.
None of us are the same and we all make different choices in life and you need to do what is right for you and not what everyone else thinks you should be doing.
Follow your own wants, just because your friends would do things differently doesn't make the way your doing it wrong.
Good luck :o)
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