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writes:ok.soo i've known this boy since i was about 10 years old. he was my 1st kiss and my 1st boyfriend. for years me and him was real close. i am a huge flirt. and he knew that. i went out with and liked a lot of boys he knew over the years and it was the same for him. we were like best friends. so one summer we were hanging out and chilling a lot and i realized i wanted to take our relationship to the next level. well when i told him this - he told me that ( because i lived in another state ] it wouldn't work. he told me he knew he would cheat because i wasn't around; and that he cared for me too much to do that to me. so i left to go back to school and while i was there i found out he was talking my best friends; other best friend. so to get him back - and make him realize how i felt. i started talking to 1 of his close friends. well when he found out he got really mad and stopped talking to me. he started going around telling everybody that i was a hoe. and when i would try'n be nice and speak to him he would go back and tell everybody that i was sweating him. so i let the situation go. well i started having sex a couple of months after the situation happened. and i wound up having sex with his friend. so this past summer he strtd talkin to me again. and he asked me could we chill. i told him ok; but no sex. and he said tht was ok with him. so wen we went to chill - of course he was pressuring me to have sex. and even though i wanted to i told him no because i knew from experience that sex made things worse. he told me to trust him tht things between us weren't gonna change - so i did; and we had sex. soo he was leaving to go to the nat'l guard. so i told him tht before he left i wanted to tlk to him. soo me being excited that we were friends again; tried to spend time with him and talk about what had went on over that past year. everytime i'd call he'd git mad and hang up and call back; make promises to come and chill with me but never show; and he'd tell me tht i was 'aggrevating' him - so i left him alone; thinkn he wuld come around. so the day he was supposed to leave i'd found out from a mutual friend that he'd told her friend ( her other bestfeind ] tht he'd loved her and he was gonna miss her. so i decided then and there that there was nothing there. i'd found out that he'd bin writin the girl ever since he'd left to go to the nat'l guard - telln her how much he loved her and that he was gonna miss her and all that - so around christmas 1 of my friends was on the phone with a mutual friend of ours and he was there and he'd told her to tell me happy holidays - idk am i wrong for hating as much as i do ? its lik; i'd known him for almost half our life and now i feel like what once was culd never be; i know that he's still going to try'n be friends with me but i hate him . . . should i try'n salvage what once was; or keep holdin on to what now is ..?
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reader, tinylass  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 i had the same thing i slept with a friend that i have known all my life and after that he broke up with me. i didnt know what to do i really loved him. he wouldnt talk to me and he kept sleeping with other people and throwing it in my face. but now i am in a great relationship and very happy and i believe that you could have that too. you dont deserve to be treated like that and there are plenty of guys out there that would respect you saying no and not push you do it when you dont want to. i think you should move on with your life at the relationship part but im sure that no matter what has happened between you both that maybe just being friends would be the best thing to do, hope this helps good luck x
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