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writes:As I am new to this website, I just hope that everyone will welcome me with the open arm. I just hope someone could give me a suggestion which I can eventually move on with my problem @ question.Before you keep on reading, please note below:• A = my long term boyfriend• B = this man I met through face bookI have been in the long term relationship with A for nearly 6 years. I have such golden years with him until I came back to my country for business over 6 months ago. Things were great in the beginning. He calls and emails me frequently. As times goes by his calls spaced out and I get tired of waiting for his call. But we have not officially ended our relationship.B is my friend who I met through face book. He is one person who I feel connected from the beginning. We met a couple of times outside and hanged out. We call and text each other every now and then. I admit I fancy him but never really thought much of it as I am in a relationship. Then things changed for a turn. He also came back to my country for long vacation. We ended up hanging out and talking on the phone for hours. He persuaded me to meet up with him alone but I never agree to it. Even when we have dinner, I always have another friend with us. I am dying to hang out with him alone but feel guilty that I will do wrong on my boyfriend of six years. After I turn B down for several times, I feel like he is eventually giving up on me.The problem is that I think about B all the time. I wait for his call forever but so reluctant to pick up and call him when I want to. I have a strong feeling that he is attracted to me too. Sometimes, he would tell me why we should be together. But I know the history of B being a bit of a player with girls. That actually makes me feel nervous. I really do not want to be with someone who I cannot turn my back on. I am not sure whether he is trying it on with me. But then…gosh I fancy him so much that I am wasting too much time thinking about him.What should I do???Should I try to reconcile with my long term boyfriend or try to have a go with B?Please help me.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 First, talk to your boyfriend and ask him if he could go back to calling and emailing you frequently as it would make you feel better. If he doesn't, then maybe you should break it off if you can't deal with how little he contacts you. As for the other guy, if he's a player, why take any chances with him? Try to have more conversations/time with your boyfriend and if that doesn't get any better, then you should break it off. I wouldn't be with the other guy if I were you, but if you're really set on doing so, then be prepared to deal with him playing you.
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