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writes:Well my name is chris. I broke up with my gierlfriend a week ago because I couldn't stand watching her treat me with much less interest and attention then she used to do. We were 2 and ahalf years together and during the last 2 months fighting and quarelling seemed to be more serious than ever. I believe she really loves me but she said that she doesn't feel in love as she used to feel and that she got tired trying to save our relationship. Should I try to forget her or is there any hope to get her back?
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Hi,
Leave it for now and just give yourself and her some space. Don't send notes of "I'll always be here for you" etc. (i would see that as needy) Just take the pressure out of everything and see how you feel in a couple of weeks. Let things cool down. H.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Im sorry to here that... I think if u still love her then try and reach out to her and try and work through it...
Remember, openness in communication is always paramount.... tell her how you feel and try and see why you have been fighting...
Good luck...
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reader, AuntYvi  +, writes (21 March 2008):
Hi Chris,
This is one of those relationship make or break decisions for you. I'm sure the questions on your mind are: If you fight for your girlfriend and you stay together will you ever be happy with each other again? Are you just delaying the inevitable? Should love really be this much hard work?
The answer is all in what your beliefs are, if you believe she is the one for you and she believes you are the one for her, then you have to try again. Unfortunately this takes time and team work, changing yourself and relaxing about your partners faults and misgivings. Talking or arguing but to gain understanding instead of getting at each other. You'll have to teach youself to remember that your not perfect and that everything each of you does can affect the other. You have to both learn to listen.
If your girl says shes been fighting for your relationship, ask her to explain how so that you can help by being aware of what she believe are the problems. Take this oportunity to tell her where you thing your going wrong.
You may even want to go as far as taking a holiday from each other but keeping in contact by phone, playfully. No household bills talk, just what you miss about each other, how you feel about each other, more ;-)!
These are just suggestions, may be worth giving some of it a go but let me know if I can help any more!
AuntYvi
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