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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have known my best guy friend for over a year now, we get on great. I used to like him A LOT, I confessed my feelings for him once and he said he only liked me as a close friend. I eventually got over him and our friendship was never ruined, so that was good. Although for the past month or so I have regained my original feelings for him, but now they are greater. He is always on my mind and although he can be quite arrogant at times, his negative points mean nothing to me. I am convinced that I love him, and please, don't say that "I am too young to understand" - I am 13, and he is 14, in the year above me. However, this is unrequited love. I am almost certain that he does not like me, let alone love me back. I am aware that he likes someone else, I know who it is. However he said he also has much greater feelings for another girl, he would not tell me who she is. He has problems trusting people. I have tried to get over him, but I find it impossible. I've tried to get closer to him too, I've asked other people for advice, however they just mention flirting with him, but I cannot flirt to save my life! I have considered telling him about my feelings for a second time, however I have also thought that spending a day with him, and only him, would bring us alot closer, then he may like me (this has worked before). But I have no courage to ask him, he looks down at me, and I know he sounds like the wrong guy but trust me, he is amazing. Should I try harder, keep myself to myself, or just give up? Thankyou so much for your time! :)And please give me tips on how to succeed with your chosen answer :)
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reader, laura585  +, writes (10 July 2009):
Well, do you have a suspicion the other girl he likes more is you since he won't tell you? It doesn't mean it is you, I'm a girl too and we tend to think things like that. I have figured out by now that guys are usually pretty straight-forward, when they say they only want to be friends, that's what they mean. Like I said tho "usually." If I were you I wouldn't dwell over him if he is showing absolutely no interest in you. What you're dealing with here is a crush, an obsessive crush (since you think about him all the time.) Try dating other guys, even if your not all that interested in them (since im sure this other guy will be on your mind) but give the new guy a chance, he may be even more amazing than this guy once you get to know him AND he may also like you back, which is more than you can say about this guy. Or, better yet, focus your attention on school activities like sports, or theatre, or whatever your interested in- if you keep yourself busy it will help to keep him off your mind off of him!
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