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writes: I have a problem. I like this girl at my school. Over the past first week of sumer holidays I keep thinking about talking to her and asking her out, or keeping my identity secret and sending her love letters. But unfortunatley I'm not the most confident of guys, but I would be willing to commit myself to the task. I was thinking even though we are only remotely friends, and see each other once in a while, to get her a gift and then see how she feels. Please help, urgent!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, becky05 +, writes (5 August 2005):
No doubt she would be excited and flattered by a gift from a mystery admirer but have you thought about what you would do after you have sent the gift?
I think it would be best for you to ask this girl out face to face .
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 August 2005):
 Think about it this way: if you send her gifts and letters anonymously, how is she going to know who to be thrilled with? And if your gestures win her over, how is she going to know who she's falling for? Any guy could claim credit for your ideas, and we don't want that!
I appreciate that you don't feel confident with girls, so don't go beyond your comfort level at first. Step things down a little. You don't have to bowl her over with expensive gifts or mind-blowing poetry or passionate declarations of Eternal Love. Start small, then build, young man!
Get a small postcard or a blank greeting card and write her a short note. Tell her that, since school ended, you've thought about her and that you're actually looking forward to next term when you can see her again. Let her know that you think she's special, smart and attractive. Tell her what you've been doing during the summer holidays. Close with "your affectionate friend", etc. Be friendly, but give her a glimpse that you'd like to be more than friends with her.
Speaking as a former girl (although that was some years ago), I can promise you with my hand over my palpitating female heart, that a little gesture like that will give her a massive thrill.
There's every chance that she'll want to get in contact afterward, so include your phone number in the letter.
Once you two are communicating, maybe then a small present would add an extra touch of romance. But be sure that she knows it comes from YOU.
Good luck. I know you'll win her over.
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